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Yea Houston I make sure my clothes are straight and tell my aids to dress me accordingly.
Personal appearance is your first contact with everyone around you and nobody wants to talk to a slob.
I also make sure I'm sitting right in my chair and can't stand to look crooked, I know my aids get annoyed sometimes because I'll do it all twice if I think I need it to look presentable.
Some quads aren't as vocal or as lucky as some of us and it bugs me to see them looking like a 2 year old dressed them but their situation might not be as good as should be so I try to tell them to be more vocal about their care but some just can't help it.
Mark
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Date: Wednesday, January 12, 2005 4:14:23 PM
Subject: [QUAD-L] Sci appearances
Jim you are correct about taking care yourself to look attractive. I see a lot of my neighbors there are wheelchairs looking like they just don�t care about their appearance any more. And I fill that them looking and dressing as they do it has an effect of the way others look towards me and everyone else in wheelchairs. Just because I�m disabled doesn�t mean that I have to look as if I and homeless and a bum. Just as several of my neighbors will go up to the grocery store with their overnight bed bag hanging on the outset of their chairs. Which looks a mess it reflects upon the others in our community that are in chairs. I don�t want to see it and I know that the average AB truly doesn�t want to see it. I understand if there�s no other way but if you could put it in a bag so that everyone didn�t have 2 C your piss well why not. They go around as if it�s a new fashion statement.
On 1/11/05 3:12 PM, "[EMAIL PROTECTED]" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Dave,
I know that I'm paralyzed and I accept the fact that I am. I know what I can do and I know what I cannot do from experience. When I first got injured I figured I could still do just about everything I did before but I learned quickly how vulnerable I was and what being paralyzed was all about. It seemed like just about every time I blew off my commonsense and my spider sense I ended up in trouble. Now, I respect that I am paralyzed and can only do so much so I better pay attention to my senses otherwise am going to be in trouble especially in the wintertime.
I know that I am not looked at as a sexual object because of the way I look in a wheelchair. Even though I lost a lot of weight since my injury I still have a large quad gut, which makes me look somewhat obese and unattractive. Even if you are in a wheelchair you still have to take care of yourself to make yourself look attractive to the opposite sex.
Jim
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