On 1/12/05 6:03 PM, "Lori Michaelson" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Even if I stay home all day (which is almost daily) and see only hubby & my dog (and a few people if I go for a walk around the neighborhood (still do here in 60-70 deg week here in Tucson) .... no matter what .... I wear clothes that are nice, jewelry & make-up. It's a routine I've gotten into as far as I can remember.
Oh & have aide curl my hair!
I don't even wear sweatshirts as they make me feel slobby or less feminine.
I too see quad pics on the net who know they'll be in a photo and still look like they haven't even brushed their hair! (girls). With sloppy clothes.
Not judging ... I just "feel better" when I do the whole ball of wax day in & day out.
Lori
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From: Houston809 <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Date: 01/12/05 15:16:51
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Subject: [QUAD-L] Sci appearances
Jim you are correct about taking care yourself to look attractive. I see a lot of my neighbors there are wheelchairs looking like they just don’t care about their appearance any more. And I fill that them looking and dressing as they do it has an effect of the way others look towards me and everyone else in wheelchairs. Just because I’m disabled doesn’t mean that I have to look as if I and homeless and a bum. Just as several of my neighbors will go up to the grocery store with their overnight bed bag hanging on the outset of their chairs. Which looks a mess it reflects upon the others in our community that are in chairs. I don’t want to see it and I know that the average AB truly doesn’t want to see it. I understand if there’s no other way but if you could put it in a bag so that everyone didn’t have 2 C your piss well why not. They go around as if it’s a new fashion statement.
On 1/11/05 3:12 PM, "[EMAIL PROTECTED]" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Dave,
I know that I'm paralyzed and I accept the fact that I am. I know what I can do and I know what I cannot do from experience. When I first got injured I figured I could still do just about everything I did before but I learned quickly how vulnerable I was and what being paralyzed was all about. It seemed like just about every time I blew off my commonsense and my spider sense I ended up in trouble. Now, I respect that I am paralyzed and can only do so much so I better pay attention to my senses otherwise am going to be in trouble especially in the wintertime.
I know that I am not looked at as a sexual object because of the way I look in a wheelchair. Even though I lost a lot of weight since my injury I still have a large quad gut, which makes me look somewhat obese and unattractive. Even if you are in a wheelchair you still have to take care of yourself to make yourself look attractive to the opposite sex.
Jim
