Money is an issue that every couple has to come to grips with. handicapped or not. We all find middle grounds that suit us or we argue a lot about it. You got to decide if you love that person. If you love them and your alone now, you made a mistake. I have a sister that controls every freakin dime her husband brings home. Somehow they own 15 houses and appartment buildings and he gets a new truck each year. She gave me a $4500 mattress. Some people are gifted when it comes to money. He never made more than 55g in one year and she gets money by the truckload without going on a long drive. I think it is hard never getting on top in bed. Drives me crazy watching all the crap a woman has to put up with being around me. I thought those expences sounded reasonable. Were you upset because she didn't consult you first? Do you begin every responce to spending money with a sharp "No!"? Honestly, for those of you having a tough time in a relationship, you need to consider being alone. Control is important, but when your alone, just what is it that you control? Having been alone my entire crippled life I can tell you that I'd let a lot of little money arguements go and just be glad she said the car was from both of us. You can tell her you'd enjoy doing some of the shopping, but if your the guy that sulks everytime you sign a payment agreement, think how much pain and suffering shes saving you. I do wish you luck. hope money doesn't cripple your relationship. john -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]; [email protected] Sent: Thu, 19 Apr 2007 2:17 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] relationships and being a quad
Good choice Ron for not married that Lady. I'm going to have my 25th wedding anniversary in June but my wife left me last October but we're still married. As for control, you have every right to fear the loss of control. I came home from rehab in October of 2000 and from that day my wife took control of everything and I had no say or little say from that day forward. I would ask her about finances and she would tell me not to worry about it and I would try to discipline the kids but she would tell them that they did not have to listen to me and she would not take me out very often until I was able to drive my own van. She was even really upset because she needed to take a day off from work to go with me to pick my van up and from there it just got worse. She did not discuss the purchase of a $6000 entertainment center or the $2200 washer and dryer or even the $5500 car that she just bought for our daughter without telling me so either myself or my friends could check i! t out. So my friend, I feel you made the right decision. Jim See what's free at AOL.com. ________________________________________________________________________ AOL now offers free email to everyone. Find out more about what's free from AOL at AOL.com.
