They guy is whiny. I couldn't stand to listen to him. Most of us try to blend
in instead of wanting someone to feel sorry for us.
I go grocery shopping by myself all of the time. I put my transfer board on my
lap and put a basket over that. If I need to buy something that is too big to
fit, I ask someone up front to get it for me when I am ready to pay. I go to
the same store most of the time and they are very helpful. I've gotten to know
a few of the people there and they often ask me if I need anything.
People often ask me if i need help when they are walking by and see my ramp
open while I am transfering into my chair. I just tell them I got myself here
and I am fine but thank you so much for asking. Many times we get into a
discussion of some sort which I enjoy.
I just blend in. I smile, make eye contact, joke about myself, etc. No reason
for me to try to explain to people how life is like that guy did in the
monolouge. If they make judgements because of my chair then I have no time for
them.
Stacy
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Sent: Sunday, April 27, 2008 6:14:29 PM
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] wheelchair monologue
I understand what you say about having to ask for help. When I go to concert
my friend drops me off and has to park, which takes a long time. When I went
to the Bon Jovi concert last week, one of the doorkeepers saw me almost at the
end of the long line outdoors and came and got me and let me in and then
another person took me to my wheelchair seating. It's unfortunate that grocery
stores don't have someone to help you like department stores usually do. It
seems as though they are cutting back on staff and it's harder now to sometimes
even find salespeople in any store, but usually I do. Persons are usually
willing to help if you ask. You have to search for a salesperson. Elevators
are especially difficult, I just have to wait till somebody is walking by to
ask for help to push the buttons.
I agree with everything that you said Joan. Everyone wants to see my yorkie,
which makes a good opportunity to ask for help.
On another note, my yorkie , Zoe just ran out the front door to the end of the
block to a busy intersection and four cars had to slam on their brakes. My aid
could have been bringing back a dead dog. She is really bad about running out
the front door and it doesn't matter what you say she will not stop. She used
to just go to the street and now she goes to the intersection.
.
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