Bobbie, obviously you are seriously depressed with good reason. Life has been a bitch to you as it has to most of us quads. I have a sore about 3 x 4 on my butt right now that refuses to heal. It has been that way for 7 years! But As long as it remains stable, I refuse to stay in bed. I dress it morning and night, sit on a Roho, and go on my merry way. If fate nabs me with an ugly bacteria, so be it. At least I went down on my own terms. I also take an antidepressant. That helps a great deal. I highly recommend it. I take Paxil and Xanax to keep me steady. I am a firm believer that if there is a chemical that will make my life more tolerable, bring it on. None of this "purity and nobility of suffering" for me. Pointless. Hang in there, Bobbie. I know these are just empty words that change nothing, but try not to dwell on what "might have been". Those thoughts will throw you in a hole and shovel dirt over you. God bless you. Chin up, my friend.
Sent from my iPad Begin forwarded message: > Resent-From: [email protected] > From: "[email protected]" <[email protected]> > Date: May 16, 2012 23:37:12 EDT > To: <[email protected]>, "Bobbie Humphreys" <[email protected]> > Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] I need a friend > > > > Oh my god Bobbie, your message made me cry. I'm so sorry you feel this way. I > can totally relate to how you feel. I've been in bed for 1 1/2 years with a > pressure sore. I just started getting up a few weeks ago. I get the > frustration of not being able to make plans due to the unpredictability of my > body. I've felt at times it's easier to stay in bed. My attendant will be > here any minute so I can't spend as much time today talking with you. But I > wanted you to know your not alone. Please try and hang in there and I'll get > back in touch with you tomorrow. Your in my prayers. If I can help you, I > will. > Kathy Ludwig > C4-5 > > > -------Original Message------- > > From: Bobbie Humphreys > Date: 5/16/2012 7:58:04 PM > To: [email protected] > Subject: [QUAD-L] I need a friend > > Everybody, > I use to have a few friends how were quads, about 5 near me. We > could talk to each other good or bad ~ we were there for each other. Today > all have either moved away or died. Dose anybody have any ideas as to how I > can find another quad friend? I REALLY need to talk to a fellow quad, and > soon. I just can't stop crying. I've been stuck in bed since February and am > now starting to get up, but as strange as it may sound, I find it easier to > stay in bed … I get into a routine. But once I start getting up it's in drubs > and drabs. When I'm up and the weather is nice, I see everyday normal people > doing all the things I can't. Or hearing about where they've been or where > there going to be doing. I can't make plans. Every time I make plans for the > near future, the rug can be pulled out from under me at a movements notice > because of a goddam sore on my butt that is super fiscal but enough to ground > me. > I can only ride in my van once a week because the bumps in the road cause > irritation on my butt. I use to drive but now I can't … same reason as I just > mentioned. > Pete is doing more and I'm doing less. I'm just existing, not LIVING. I > want to die! Bobbie > > Sent from my iPad >
