Hi Bobbie, Perhaps you have a local ILC - Independent Living Center who can connect you to quad friends in your area? I also concur with Larry and take Lexipro and Ativan to deal with anxiety and depression.
Best to you, Patrick ________________________________ From: Larry Willis <[email protected]> To: [email protected] Sent: Thu, May 17, 2012 7:00:38 AM Subject: Fwd: [QUAD-L] I need a friend Bobbie, obviously you are seriously depressed with good reason. Life has been a bitch to you as it has to most of us quads. I have a sore about 3 x 4 on my butt right now that refuses to heal. It has been that way for 7 years! But As long as it remains stable, I refuse to stay in bed. I dress it morning and night, sit on a Roho, and go on my merry way. If fate nabs me with an ugly bacteria, so be it. At least I went down on my own terms. I also take an antidepressant. That helps a great deal. I highly recommend it. I take Paxil and Xanax to keep me steady. I am a firm believer that if there is a chemical that will make my life more tolerable, bring it on. None of this "purity and nobility of suffering" for me. Pointless. Hang in there, Bobbie. I know these are just empty words that change nothing, but try not to dwell on what "might have been". Those thoughts will throw you in a hole and shovel dirt over you. God bless you. Chin up, my friend. Sent from my iPad Begin forwarded message: Resent-From: [email protected] >From: "[email protected]" <[email protected]> >Date: May 16, 2012 23:37:12 EDT >To: <[email protected]>, "Bobbie Humphreys" <[email protected]> >Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] I need a friend > > > >Oh my god Bobbie, your message made me cry. I'm so sorry you feel this way. I >can totally relate to how you feel. I've been in bed for 1 1/2 years with a >pressure sore. I just started getting up a few weeks ago. I get the >frustration >of not being able to make plans due to the unpredictability of my body. I've >felt at times it's easier to stay in bed. My attendant will be here any minute >so I can't spend as much time today talking with you. But I wanted you to know >your not alone. Please try and hang in there and I'll get back in touch with >you >tomorrow. Your in my prayers. If I can help you, I will. >Kathy Ludwig >C4-5 > > >-------Original Message------- > >From: Bobbie Humphreys >Date: 5/16/2012 7:58:04 PM >To: [email protected] >Subject: [QUAD-L] I need a friend > >Everybody, > I use to have a few friends how were quads, about 5 near me. We >could talk to each other good or bad ~ we were there for each other. Today all >have either moved away or died. Dose anybody have any ideas as to how I can >find >another quad friend? I REALLY need to talk to a fellow quad, and soon. I just >can't stop crying. I've been stuck in bed since February and am now starting >to >get up, but as strange as it may sound, I find it easier to stay in bed … I >get >into a routine. But once I start getting up it's in drubs and drabs. When I'm >up >and the weather is nice, I see everyday normal people doing all the things I >can't. Or hearing about where they've been or where there going to be doing. I >can't make plans. Every time I make plans for the near future, the rug can be >pulled out from under me at a movements notice because of a goddam sore on my >butt that is super fiscal but enough to ground me. > I can only ride in my van once a week because the bumps in the road cause >irritation on my butt. I use to drive but now I can't … same reason as I just >mentioned. > Pete is doing more and I'm doing less. I'm just existing, not LIVING. I > want >to die! Bobbie > >Sent from my iPad > > > >
