If you don't get or keep a caregiver, then you may have to go to a home of some type---I met a quad from Florida once that told me he lived in an independent living facility for a number of years with some other disabled people, he said he really enjoyed his time there, plus they had a nurse or caregiver to help them when needed. I don't know if this option is available anymore or what states have this but it is worth checking into. Dan H.
________________________________ From: Toby Ausbun <[email protected]> To: [email protected] Cc: "[email protected]" <[email protected]> Sent: Thu, September 13, 2012 6:56:32 AM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Giving up Hi my name is Toby I'm from Columbus Nebraska I'm a c4 complete ,I only have a shrug in my shoulders am having a hard time right now finding a purpose to go on!!! I don't know if I should go into a nursing home or what to do!!! My care giver for the last 15 years has been their 24/7 365 days a year has about had it with me and I haven't really had to depend on anybody but her for a long time!!!! I'm scared more than anything but I don't know what to do ?????? Sent from my iPad On Sep 12, 2012, at 11:22 PM, Nan <[email protected]> wrote: You are not being "weird" - she is! My call is ... Totally inappropriate! > > >Nan > > > ________________________________ From: ~LittleQuad~ <[email protected]> >To: Wheelchair <[email protected]>; [email protected]; Quad-list post ><[email protected]> > >Sent: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 1:36 PM >Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Is this inappropriate touching? > >Yes, everything W said! Except the crazy part!! >Lq > > >~LittleQuad~ >Sent from my BlackBerry > >-----Original Message----- >From: [email protected] >Date: Wed, 12 Sep 2012 13:17:44 >To: <[email protected]>; <[email protected]>; <[email protected]>; ><[email protected]>; <[email protected]> >Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Is this inappropriate touching? > > >You are crazy KK, but that is another issue (smiling) > >In the world of law, that action would be considered, assault. If the >person touched you again after any sign of disapproval, those actions >would be considered, assault and battery. This alone would lead to >police intervention, a report, an arrest and money bond. The case >would have to be heard by the court and a judgement. These actions >would also lead to additional hearings, by the person's employment. >These types of actions should not be tolerated by anyone, verbal or >none verbal. >Best Wishes > >-----Original Message----- >From: KK <[email protected]> >To: quad-list <[email protected]>; eric <[email protected]>; >Lainie Batte <[email protected]>; MS Quads ><[email protected]> >Sent: Wed, Sep 12, 2012 9:21 am >Subject: [QUAD-L] Is this inappropriate touching? > >I am having a tough time deciding if this is wrong or I am being crazy. > >I have Multiple Sclerosis. I am paralyzed from the chest down except >for my right arm. No feeling at all. I also can not speak. This aide >has been with me about 2 months, M-F 5 hours a day. Yesterday we went >outside on the front porch & she was talking to a neighbor. Suddenly >she took my keys & ran them across my feet. I did nothing. Didn't >feel it but saw her movements. She smiled & did it over & over again. >It was like she did not believe I could not feel it. > >Now I feel this was inappropriate but not sure what she expected to get >out of her actions. It has made me feel uncomfortable & dread her >coming today. > >Maybe I am being weird. What do you think about it? > >KK > > > > >
