Ron,
Do you mean c-4? Because anyone who is a t-4 can be fully independent with self
care, unless he has other significant deficits you didn't mention (e.g. TBI.)
If he is, in fact, a fully cognizant t-4 with a foley, colostomy and pressure
sores he has demonstrated that he takes no personal responsibility and most
likely there is nothing you can do to help him in the long run. I may sound
heartless, but I've met my share of people like this and they are emotional and
resource blackholes--you can put all your energy and money into helping him,
but if he doesn't take some responsibility it will all be a waste.
Don.
From: Joan Anglin <[email protected]>
To: 'RONALD L PRACHT' <[email protected]>; 'Quad-list Post'
<[email protected]>
Sent: Saturday, December 20, 2014 6:09 PM
Subject: RE: [QUAD-L] What to do about a paraplegic in need
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{}#yiv9348531297 I agreed with wheels, call 911 and if nothing else they might
be able to give him an advocacy number to call, what is going on is criminal.
Have him give your information (how to get a hold of you) to the police and
then maybe you can have an idea of what advocates are available to him in case
they don’t allow him to make other outside contacts as punishment. I know,
illegal, but it does happen. Hopefully you can help him out. Joan
From: RONALD L PRACHT [mailto:[email protected]]
Sent: Saturday, December 20, 2014 3:52 PM
To: Quad-list Post
Subject: [QUAD-L] What to do about a paraplegic in need I have known this man
who is approximately a functional t-4 paraplegic from a gunshot wound for ten
years. His wife left him years ago for a chiropractor and he moved in with his
elderly mother. She turned 84 and evidently couldn't do anymore bowell routines
or showers for her son. He got a colostomy bag installed, as well as a foley.
This helped his mother manage him for awhile but he got a couple pressure sores
on his buttocks from lack of pressure relief and few if any showers. His
brothers and sister conspired against him with a plan to take him for a "ride"
that consisted of loading him up and dropping him in the front waiting area of
a nursing home here in an outskirt community of St. Louis. He met a woman that
was a "friend" that wrote checks and cleaned out his entire checking account .
The money was written to the "friends" sister in an attempt to help him
supposedly hide his money from the Medicaid spendown. Once the nursing home
figured out what was going on they sent him to another nursing home. The
paralyzed man doesn't know where he is and all he can tell me is there is no
one white there and his power chair is in the hallway. Upon asking to get out
of bed on several occasions he has been denied. His television set was stolen
during the night by a large woman. His foley was ripped out of his penis on
accident by one of the male attendants that speaks very little English. I
talked to him during the night and told him to call paraquad or the local
independent living center and explain his life is in danger. Im not sure what
else I can tell him to do. He is trying to figure a way to commit suicide as
well. Ron
