Hes a t-4, his family gave up on him. Its not all his fault, he was fairly independent b4 the sores except for shower and bowell management. I was just hoping he could get into a group home or some kind of section 8 apartment. He is going to die where hes at. He does have full use of arms and hands, but could never get the concept of how to complete a bowell routine. He never even had any formal rehab when he was shot. Kind of a crazy story how he got shot. He was a union insulator at the time and was looking for a used tanning bed in the paper. He called a guy who had one for sale in St. Louis. When he showed up at the guys house, he was told it was down the hall. When he got to the room down the hall the man pulled out a gun and said" give me all your money", he refused and was shot in the back and head. I helped this man get a van and drive in 05. He was doing laps right beside me in the pool. I was more independent at c7 than he was at t-4 except for fine hand motor skills. Some people just cant adapt to a new kind of life.
Ron On Sunday, December 21, 2014 7:03 PM, Don Price <[email protected]> wrote: Ron, Do you mean c-4? Because anyone who is a t-4 can be fully independent with self care, unless he has other significant deficits you didn't mention (e.g. TBI.) If he is, in fact, a fully cognizant t-4 with a foley, colostomy and pressure sores he has demonstrated that he takes no personal responsibility and most likely there is nothing you can do to help him in the long run. I may sound heartless, but I've met my share of people like this and they are emotional and resource blackholes--you can put all your energy and money into helping him, but if he doesn't take some responsibility it will all be a waste. Don. ________________________________ From: Joan Anglin <[email protected]> To: 'RONALD L PRACHT' <[email protected]>; 'Quad-list Post' <[email protected]> Sent: Saturday, December 20, 2014 6:09 PM Subject: RE: [QUAD-L] What to do about a paraplegic in need I agreed with wheels, call 911 and if nothing else they might be able to give him an advocacy number to call, what is going on is criminal. Have him give your information (how to get a hold of you) to the police and then maybe you can have an idea of what advocates are available to him in case they don’t allow him to make other outside contacts as punishment. I know, illegal, but it does happen. Hopefully you can help him out. Joan From:RONALD L PRACHT [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: Saturday, December 20, 2014 3:52 PM To: Quad-list Post Subject: [QUAD-L] What to do about a paraplegic in need I have known this man who is approximately a functional t-4 paraplegic from a gunshot wound for ten years. His wife left him years ago for a chiropractor and he moved in with his elderly mother. She turned 84 and evidently couldn't do anymore bowell routines or showers for her son. He got a colostomy bag installed, as well as a foley. This helped his mother manage him for awhile but he got a couple pressure sores on his buttocks from lack of pressure relief and few if any showers. His brothers and sister conspired against him with a plan to take him for a "ride" that consisted of loading him up and dropping him in the front waiting area of a nursing home here in an outskirt community of St. Louis. He met a woman that was a "friend" that wrote checks and cleaned out his entire checking account . The money was written to the "friends" sister in an attempt to help him supposedly hide his money from the Medicaid spendown. Once the nursing home figured out what was going on they sent him to another nursing home. The paralyzed man doesn't know where he is and all he can tell me is there is no one white there and his power chair is in the hallway. Upon asking to get out of bed on several occasions he has been denied. His television set was stolen during the night by a large woman. His foley was ripped out of his penis on accident by one of the male attendants that speaks very little English. I talked to him during the night and told him to call paraquad or the local independent living center and explain his life is in danger. Im not sure what else I can tell him to do. He is trying to figure a way to commit suicide as well. Ron
