On 1/24/24 10:16 PM, Udhay Shankar N via Silklist wrote:
Very interesting thought. The most thought-provoking part is "changing your mental model" which resonated with me, because the mental model which causes this to be an issue in the first place is "Am I being taken advantage of?" (which is completely different from "Can I afford this?" which requires a separate thread, I think.)
Yes ... I grew up in a household where my father tracked every penny of expenses and basically invented a double-entry bookkeeping system so he could resolve his cash accounts Sunday night. I guess it was "fun" for him, but hell for everyone else when he wandered the house saying "where did I spent twelve cents?".
It came both from a history of not having enough (he lived through WWII in Germany) and a fear of being taken advantage of ... which I, somewhat unfortunately, inherited.
Those two things were very intertwined in my attitude towards money, and this experience was a big step in learning to let go of them.
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