And I'm just saying that it's one thing to say what you would do, and it becomes infinitely more complicated when it is your loved one lying in the coma, or on the ventilator.
I've helped make the decision to terminate life support, or withhold it more than once, and sat with people who have had to make it. I've experience in my own family a loved one who could breathe on her own for 20 years, but for all practical purposes was dead. Yeah, her husband chose to divorce her and get on with his life, but anyone who knew him or her could never say he was being cruel or unkind to her. Even after remarrying (which he didn't for a very long time) he sat at the hospital every day, spent every dime he could to see she got the best care, but he did get on with his life. She was my blood kin, I took my name from her, and I say without hesitation she would have approved of him doing just what he did. Were she able she would have given her blessing. It didn't mean he loved her less, but he had to accept reality that she wasn't coming back. We do not know why God allowed her to linger as long as he did, she died earlier this year, but no decisions regarding her care were easy for the family. I'm just saying these kinds of cases are never as easy or simple as they may seem. A lot of heartache takes place when one's loved one gets put on life support. I know. I've been there, done that and sold the t-shirt to lose the memories. Charles Mims http://www.the-sandbox.org -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Greg Hopper Sent: Thursday, October 16, 2003 4:32 PM To: The Sandbox Discussion List Subject: Re: [Sndbox] Right to Die I wasn't casting any stones, merely stating that *I* couldn't fathom it... ----- Original Message ----- From: "Charles" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "'The Sandbox Discussion List'" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Thursday, October 16, 2003 3:13 PM Subject: RE: [Sndbox] Right to Die > I'm not going to cast that stone. I will say that in the case in the > news the man should get a divorce from his wife and marry the > girlfriend *before* > having children with her, but that's primarily based on my belief that > sex outside of marriage is forbidden by God. I'm not going to fault > someone whose spouse is permanently checked out for getting on with > their life...it's a decision I hope I never have to face. > > > Charles Mims > http://www.the-sandbox.org > > > -----Original Message----- > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > On Behalf Of Greg Hopper > Sent: Thursday, October 16, 2003 3:02 PM > To: The Sandbox Discussion List > Subject: Re: [Sndbox] Right to Die > > I couldn't fathom doing that before they died....of course, that's > just me. > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Charles" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: "'The Sandbox Discussion List'" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > Sent: Thursday, October 16, 2003 1:48 PM > Subject: RE: [Sndbox] Right to Die > > > > Maybe. My aunt was in a coma for 20 years. Her husband eventually > > remarried, yet was at the hospital every single day even after. He > > still loved her. Was he wrong to divorce my aunt and remarry? Some > > in the > family > > say so, but there comes a time when someone's life may have to go on. > > > > > > Charles Mims > > http://www.the-sandbox.org > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > > On Behalf Of Greg Hopper > > Sent: Thursday, October 16, 2003 2:55 PM > > To: The Sandbox Discussion List > > Subject: Re: [Sndbox] Right to Die > > > > The girlfriend listed in the article would be top of the list I bet...... > > > > ________________________________ > > Changes to your subscription (unsubs, nomail, digest) can be made by > going to > http://sandboxmail.net/mailman/listinfo/sndbox_sandboxmail.net > > > > ________________________________ > > Changes to your subscription (unsubs, nomail, digest) can be made by > going to http://sandboxmail.net/mailman/listinfo/sndbox_sandboxmail.net ________________________________ Changes to your subscription (unsubs, nomail, digest) can be made by going to http://sandboxmail.net/mailman/listinfo/sndbox_sandboxmail.net ________________________________ Changes to your subscription (unsubs, nomail, digest) can be made by going to http://sandboxmail.net/mailman/listinfo/sndbox_sandboxmail.net
