Trini y Sean (PATangoS) wrote: > No, no, no. These aren't the right words either. A follower can suggest > things > but she shouldn't resist or force room or take over.
Whether "resist" is an appropriate word is a matter of semantics. And I disagree that it's totally unkosher for her to "force room" or "take over", at least if you understand the context (i.e. don't take the words as if they came from a military dictionary). *Of course*, it's all done in the same way as the regular lead: she suggests changes and listens to the response, in the same way that the leader *also* has to suggest the original lead and listen to the response. I'm not advocating a War of the Roses on the dance floor, but a conversation is more than one partner incessantly talking and the other one just nodding in quiet acquiescence. But "suggest" is also the wrong word to me because the follower usually by definition isn't leading: the leader suggests (which is what makes him the leader), and the follower responds. In that response there may be other suggestions than what the leader originally intended, but that's actually resisting in my book (or "modifying", but that's word whose meaning would be hard to grasp without context). Hard to convey in words, but easy to feel. > Few women I encounter are good about being able to interpret the music. Fancy that. I was going to say that about most men -- they're usually too engrossed in the steps to notice the music too much, while the women can *choose* when to act and *can* actually listen to the music with more than a quarter brain. Even when the men actually do manage to make a sequence that fits, it takes a good follower to get the timing *exactly right*, in my experience. _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
