John: Excellent point about bumping heads. I also respect your comment about ditching political language. So, for assistance in selecting a less politically-charged word, I took a look at www.thesaurus.com. The results are below. From now on, I personally am going to use the term "eating dirt" instead of "submitting." Please go back to all of my old posts and substitute "mutual dirt eating" for "mutual submission."
Eating dirt for you, Rod [Nouns] submission, yielding, nonresistance, obedience, surrender, cession, capitulation, resignation, backdown, obeisance, homage, kneeling, genuflexion, courtesy, curtsy, kowtow, prostration. [Verbs] succumb, submit, yeild, bend, resign, defer to, lay down one's arms, deliver up one's arms, lower colors, haul down colors, strike one's flag, strike colors, surrender, surrender at discretion, cede, capitulate, come to terms, retreat, beat a retreat, draw in one's horns, give way, give round, give in, give up, cave in, suffer judgement by default, bend, bend to one's yoke, bend before the storm, reel back; bend down, knuckle down, knuckle to, knuckle under, knock under, eat dirt, eat the leek, eat humble pie, bite the dust, lick the dust, be at one's feet, fall at one's feet, craven, crouch before, throw oneself at the feet of, swallow the leek, swallow the pill, kiss the rod, turn the other cheek, avaler les couleuvres, gulp down, obey kneel to, bow to, pay homage to, cringe to, truckle to, bend the neck, bend the knee, kneel, fall on one's knees, bow submission, courtesy, curtsy, kowtow, pocket the affront, make the best of, make a virtue of necessity, grin and abide, grin and bear it, shrug the shoulders, resign oneself, submit with a good grace, bear with. ______________________________________________ Roderick D. Hetzel, Ph.D. Department of Psychology LeTourneau University Post Office Box 7001 2100 South Mobberly Avenue Longview, Texas 75607-7001 Office: Heath-Hardwick Hall 115 Phone: 903-233-3312 Fax: 903-233-3246 Email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Homepage: http://www.letu.edu/people/rodhetzel -----Original Message----- From: John W. Kulig [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] Sent: Friday, October 26, 2001 10:39 AM To: Teaching in the Psychological Sciences Subject: Re: the "s-word" in the classroom Rod Hetzel wrote: > Jim: > > I agree with you that submission is important in marriage, although I > would emphasize the idea of mutual submission. If one (or both) > partner is not willing to submit to the other, then a power > differential will exist and one partner will most likely end up being > oppressed to some degree. Mutual submission sounds cool. But a word of caution. Submission is often accompanied by bowing. If two people do it at the same time, they bump heads ;) But seriously, isn't this language silly? IF oppression is the opposite of submission, and power is involved in (either as cause or reaction to) submission, isn't this recommending mutual oppression? The model of marraiage that emerges is two people alernating oppression on each other. A modest proposal: All those tipsters who have successfully managed 10 or more years of marriage (to the same person) and managed a few laughs (in addition to the inevitable bumps) ought to compile their collective wisdom into a book. I offer the first bit of anecdotal advice: Ditch the political language. It gets in the way of seeing your spouse as they are - their needs, their wants, their wishes, unadorned by politics. Sorry, no peer-reviewed references on this one - not even Psych Reports! ;) -- --------------------------------------------------------------- John W. Kulig [EMAIL PROTECTED] Department of Psychology http://oz.plymouth.edu/~kulig Plymouth State College tel: (603) 535-2468 Plymouth NH USA 03264 fax: (603) 535-2412 --------------------------------------------------------------- "What a man often sees he does not wonder at, although he knows not why it happens; if something occurs which he has not seen before, he thinks it is a marvel" - Cicero. --- You are currently subscribed to tips as: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To unsubscribe send a blank email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] --- You are currently subscribed to tips as: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To unsubscribe send a blank email to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
