John wrote:
> But seriously, isn't this language silly? IF oppression
> is the opposite of submission, and power is involved in
> (either as cause or reaction to) submission, isn't this
> recommending mutual oppression? The model of marraiage that
> emerges is two people alernating oppression on each other.
But oppression ISN'T the opposite of submission. By definition,
if you are required to submit to someone you ARE being oppressed!
The opposite of submission is dominance. The opposite of
oppression is equality. They are NOT synonyms.
> A modest proposal: All those tipsters who have
> successfully managed 10 or more years of marriage (to the
> same person) and managed a few laughs (in addition to the
> inevitable bumps) ought to compile their collective wisdom
> into a book. I offer the first bit of anecdotal advice: Ditch
> the political language. It gets in the way of seeing your
> spouse as they are - their needs, their wants, their wishes,
> unadorned by politics.
Well, since I fall into that group myself (we've been happily
married for 21 years) I'd have to agree that political language with
respect to one another IS inappropriate. On the other hand, I don't ask
(or expect) my wife to "submit" to me or to do anything else that would
be considered oppression by another feminist--I view her as my equal and
our relationship as one of mutual consent, not control.
> Sorry, no peer-reviewed references on this one - not even
> Psych Reports!
Try some feminist authors--you'll find plenty!
Rick
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