Agree on women dealing with the girl. Should we meet her weekly??? One a month I think is good enough I think to keep track.
Also..an option would be to talk to the principal of the college...or any female lecturer who might understand what we are trying to do here...and volunteer to check on her at regular intervals. They are the closest to watch and who better to guide than her own faculty?? I bet there will be more than one understanding person who will appreciate our efforts and support the cause in their way possible. Meeting the girl once a month would be more than enough I think. If this is at the college itself..then we can get the progress info from the lecturer aswell. Also..I am surprised at the fees. I paid 1100 per year for my Grad in '97. Has it increased as badly as that now...man !! Also I was working n pursuing my Grad at the same time...n hence could never make the attendance. I was waived off the attendance against four hours of time in library n reporting to a lecturer when the college was at holidays & open for questions and clarifications before final exams. I was under the guidance and watch of my principal (I wud meet her once a week) and one of my lecturers who wud site n go thru the syllabus with me everyday. I think people such exist always. We just need to look for them. -Divya **********************************************************************--- In [email protected], "Lakshmi Prasanthi Uppalapati" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Hello Karthik, > > Thanks for sharing info. > > Don't worry. No backlash would be there :) > > Coming to this case, it is not shunning away from the responsibility. It is > just weighing our pros and cons in dealing with a case. > > See, the difficulties here are: > > 1. B.N. Reddy Nagar (near Dilshukhnagar) is very far from here. > 2. To meet the girl on weekly basis (who will go? ) > > -- We already planned for a visit to Anikepalli on fortnightly basis. In > addition to that we have medical camps on alternative weekends for > successive months. > > 3. Analyzing, counselling, grooming, guiding -- not an easy task. > > Atleast I personally feel, I cannot do that. We need a person of very high > calibre to do that and one person is not enough but we need a group of > people who are capable enough of it. > > So we need to arrange them and preferably women as dealing with girls. > > So I only worry about the level of involvement and the responsibility. > > If we have to take up higher - education responsibility in this way, we need > to commit ourselves completely for the education cause. > > Given our limitations and constraints, at this point of time, taking up this > is not feasible. Financial support is fine. Meeting once in a month also > will be fine. But more than that would be too much for us. > > Anyhow, ideas are welcome. > > I will update you all with the details of tomorrow's happenings. > > Thank you. > > On 6/14/06, Karthik <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > Hi Prasanthi, > > > > Thanks for sharing the discussion points with Sai garu. > > > > I don't think the group should hesitate from taking on the > > responsibilities of the education of a student. It is after all another area > > where the group gets to make a difference. This doesn't mean that we won't > > run into to problems. I am sure we will trip and fall a few times but we'll > > get valuable lessons out of it and given the size/expertise of the group > > none of the lessons will be expensive ones :-) Also, please note that I > > mentioned the word "group" all along. > > > > However, in the specific case of this girl, I think it is mandatory > > that a meeting happen with the girl's family. If you cannot do it then it'd > > be great if someone else from the group did that. If no one can do that, I'd > > be hesitant to support the cause of this girl because I fear a backlash from > > the family. > > > > Other opinions about what I've written are definitely welcome because > > I can see that the backlash fear I mentioned is a reflection of my lack of > > experience in the area. > > > > Thanks! > > Karthik > > > > ----- Original Message ---- > > From: Lakshmi Prasanthi Uppalapati <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > To: [email protected] > > Sent: Wednesday, June 14, 2006 7:08:48 AM > > Subject: Re: [tomakeadifference] Re: <Important: New Case> Need for > > educational support. > > > > Hello Gopi, > > > > Please remove 'garu' from my name. > > > > Coming to the task, earlier I haven't given it such serious thought. But > > once Sai garu spoke with me, I was a bit discouraged and I feel we can't > > handle in the way he suggested. > > > > I rang to Ratan ji of SHiFT, he would come and meet me during lunch hour > > tomorrow. Then hopefully I will talk to Sai garu as well. > > > > Owing to what happened recently, I do not want to take anything which > > would be on one person's shoulders even if they themselves come forward. > > > > This case also needs a sophisticated handling when it comes to grooming > > and guiding. > > > > Financial support we can give... but....let me think and evaluate. > > > > Anyway the latest update today is: The girl rang to me, she met the > > principal of the Naveena College, Venkateswara Reddy and gave his contact > > number. The college fee for Intermediate M.P.C. is Rs. 9000 per year. > > > > (I paid Rs. 4000 for Intermediate 1st year and the same for 2nd year. So > > the fee for two years is 8000 Rs. It was way back in 1994-96 that to in > > Nellore.) > > > > What I replied to the girl is I can get back to her on Saturday. > > > > As Sai garu mentioned to meet the girl and the family, it is not possible > > for me for one month from now. > > > > At this point of time I am very much reluctant to mail to the group asking > > 'Anyone of you are interested to do that?'. No way. > > > > I can only update either tomorrow evening or on Friday morning. > > > > Thank you. > > > > On 6/14/06, Gopi Krishna <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > Hello Prasanthi garu, > > > > > > Its seems you are thinking very much in deapth. > > > What I feel is we can only help those who are really > > > interested in pursuing further studies by financial > > > support to some extent and moral support now and > > > then. > > > > > > Here I have summarized my views and openions regarding > > > educational support. > > > > > > 1.What we expect from them? > > > > > > Just a good citizen who in turn may be capable of > > > supporting others in future. That is enough for our > > > satisfaction. > > > > > > Ofcourse being in constant touch with them we can > > > advise them and mould their career to some extent. > > > We can never expect what she/he would be in future. > > > Only thing we can do is we have to choose such a > > > person, who have genuine interest to pursue studies > > > but unable to do because of several reasons. > > > > > > 2.What if they develop bad habits? > > > > > > This too, at this stage, we cant predict. But a > > > responsible person will never do that. Whome ever we > > > help they are going to be our members. > > > Then why to worry? > > > > > > we should not give them any extra money which they > > > never want. > > > We just make them to ask us for the their needs just > > > like our brothers or sisters do. Only after evaluation > > > we can sanction them. > > > We should be in touch with them, Just like a brother > > > or sister we should encourage them at all points. > > > > > > This kind of care will never allow them to do some > > > thing bad. > > > > > > 3. Funding. > > > > > > I think It will be nice if we have a seperate fund > > > for educational supports. A portion of monthly funds > > > or special amounts which people would like to provide > > > for the same. > > > > > > By having that we can plan how far we can support > > > them depending on their necessities. > > > > > > Finally, Supporting kids - its doesnt rise any such > > > questions. > > > > > > In the case of this girl, we can support her > > > financially but can you enquire about her family > > > situation, what I feel is her parents too should be > > > interested otherwise it will be very problematic. > > > please check this. > > > > > > With Regards > > > Gopi Krishna > > > > > > --- ulprasanthi <[EMAIL PROTECTED]<prasanthi.uppalapati%40gmail.com> > > > > > > > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > Hi Karthik and others, > > > > > > > > Thank you for the response and interest. > > > > > > > > Today Sai garu (Nokia's site manager)spoke with me. > > > > > > > > He explained me various scenarios that can happen > > > > and their past > > > > experiences. Also he emphasized the necessity of > > > > doing lot of ground > > > > work. > > > > > > > > What he opines is, if at all we take up a case, we > > > > should take full > > > > responsibility and we should talk to the family: > > > > 1. Do they do her marriage or do they allow her to > > > > study and get > > > > employment > > > > > > > > Also we should be able to guide her, groom her, > > > > motivate her etc., It > > > > is just like taking a responsibility as such that we > > > > do it for our > > > > own family member, a sort of adoption. > > > > > > > > He has given few examples: > > > > 1. A guy who cleared IAS exam > > > > 2. A girl who got many offer letters for a pay of > > > > more than 50k and > > > > who is opting for US University Scholorship for MS > > > > program > > > > > > > > If we wish to commit, we should talk to the girl/any > > > > student in > > > > detail, analyse her and then if we feel she is worth > > > > of all our > > > > efforts, then we should groom her. > > > > > > > > He has also given the examples of a boy who ran away > > > > from the hostel > > > > and also a girl who developed all sorts of bad > > > > habits. > > > > > > > > So it is not so easy. > > > > > > > > After listening to him, I felt very discouraged. So > > > > I think we need > > > > very good discussion on it and we need people who > > > > can commit and also > > > > be good enough in guiding and counselling. We all > > > > should do it > > > > collectively. > > > > > > > > It is not the case of medical help or running > > > > medical camps or just > > > > providing financial support. > > > > > > > > Ofcourse Sai garu and other members of Satya Sai > > > > Seva Dal helps us, > > > > but we should be very committed and dedicated. > > > > > > > > Lot need to be done here. Are we fit enough to take > > > > up? Please > > > > advice. Personally I am doing very serious > > > > introspection and to be > > > > frank a bit negative of our competency in dealing > > > > with/working for > > > > this cause. > > > > > > > > Thank you. > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In [email protected]<tomakeadifference%40yahoogroups.com>, > > > Karthik > > > > <karthik_j_r@> > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > > This is a good cause. I want to contribute to this > > > > girl's > > > > education. Please let me know how I can. > > > > > > > > > > Cheers! > > > > > Karthik > > > > > > > > > > ----- Original Message ---- > > > > > From: Lakshmi Prasanthi Uppalapati > > > > <prasanthi.uppalapati@> > > > > > To: [email protected]<tomakeadifference%40yahoogroups.com> > > > > > Sent: Tuesday, June 13, 2006 10:30:31 PM > > > > > Subject: Re: [tomakeadifference] <Important: New > > > > Case> Need for > > > > educational support. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Thank you Raghu and Suresh. > > > > > > > > > > Suresh from We Will Help You group came forward > > > > to help her > > > > initial fee requirement. > > > > > > > > > > ------------------------------ > > > > > From: We Will Help You > > > > > "Suresh" <suresh18@> > > > > > I propose that we go ahead with the idea of > > > > sponsoring this girl's > > > > education. We can formalize how to raise the funds a > > > > little later. I > > > > am willing to put up the initial fee requirement so > > > > that she does not > > > > miss the opportunity to start on time. > > > > > Education will always have my support. > > > > > Suresh A > > > > > > > > > > -------------------------------- > > > > > > > > > > I will give the contact details of the girl to 3 > > > > of you off-line > > > > later. If you want to ring to her and talk, you can. > > > > > > > > > > Thank you. > > > > > > > > > > On 6/14/06, suresh <sureshe_att@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > Prasanthi and team, > > > > > > > > > > Since the college has already begun, lets go > > > > ahead with sponsoring > > > > her. In the meanwhile we can work on finding a third > > > > party to sponsor > > > > her education. > > > > > > > > > > My initial contribution to this is $55. This > > > > money was raised from > > > > a penny drive. My friends who participated in this , > > > > had collected > > > > pennies worth $55 and even they would be happy to > > > > know, what they > > > > thought was inconsequential , has turned out to be a > > > > significant > > > > amount. > > > > > > > > > > anyways, thats my 2 cents :-) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ulprasanthi <prasanthi.uppalapati@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > Hello Friends, > > > > > > > > > > Good Morning/Evening. > > > > > > > > > > This is the case of a girl that I mentioned in few > > > > of my previous > > > > mails. > > > > > > > > > > Name: Swati > > > > > > > > > > Family Details: > > > > > Father: An Agricultural worker who earns Rs. 70 > > > > per day > > > > > Mother: Works in a Seed company who earns Rs. 45 > > > > per day > > > > > She is the youngest among the four children. All > > > > her elder sisters > > > > got > > > > > married. She is interested to pursue her > > > > education. > > > > > > > > > > Address: Flat No: 37, B. N. Reddy Nagar, > > > > Vanasthalipuram Mandal. 2 > > > > kms > > > > > from Vanasthalipuram it seems. > > > > > > > > > > Marks she secured in SSC: 507 > > > > > > > > > > She told me that there is a college by name Naveen > > > > College near by > > > > her > > > > > house and she doesn't mind studying in any other > > > > college that we > > > > > sponsor for her. She is ready to even join in a > > > > hostel. (We don't > > > > know > > > > > her parents' opinion. This is just her personal > > > > interest). > > > > > > > > > > I requested her to go to Naveena College tomorrow > > > > and get the fee > > > > > details and the contact details of the principal. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Meanwhile we should try to know about any college. > > > > One of my > > > > > relatives' husband works in Narayana College. I > > > > will find out if > > > > there > > > > > is any scope of concession and is it possible to > > > > talk to the > > > > > management here. or else we can try in any other > > > > college that we > > > > know. > > > > > > > > > > Friends, what do you feel about this case? Shall > > > > we > > > === message truncated === > > > > > > Send instant messages to your online friends > > > http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com > > > > > > > > > > > > -- > > with regards, > > PRASANTHI. > > ---- > > When you want something, the whole universe conspires in helping you to > > achieve it. > > > > > > > > > > -- > with regards, > PRASANTHI. > ---- > When you want something, the whole universe conspires in helping you to > achieve it. >
