Hmm I wonder people say what they want to say and they run away ..!!!! They can just accuse and go !!
Fine. Right from the beginning, we used to think that contribution can be considered anything: Money, Effort and Time. No one objected that and so far that is our stance. I do not see any reason for people to suspect this fact. Everyone has a desire to serve the society and do something and that is why we created this group, to allow them (whoever are interested) to work in whatever way they feel like. There is no change in it even now. We never questioned anyone for their reasons .. we only requested members to let us know if they wish to be dormant for few months. So far many people have taken their time off. Few questions/exclamations need to be answered. SHiFT and TMAD SHiFT is formed to allow people to work in their free time. TMAD is formed to inculcate the spirit of service inherent in every member and let them work. They can work for TMAD or they can work on their own. This group is formed to prove the fact that besides being busy we can achieve a lot. Are there any members who are not busy in this group? Didn't we achieve something if not all things? Didn't we make a difference? In fact our motto is not how big we made the difference but to make a difference without thinking too much on whether it is small or insignificant. Even if we can bring smile to a child's face, that is also making a difference. Definitely there is a difference in the basic motto itself. Why such a long mail on reducing the contribution? I wanted to show the reasons on how we are deviating from our principles. When people are saying the reasons and going away and when people expected me to say and leave (when I unsubscribed few days back one of the members exclaimed on why I didn't say any reason if there is one), I shared. A detailed agenda Agenda was like that only till May. So there was no point in discussing on it. But the views expressed and the way they were being concluded as decisions made me object and request for a detailed agenda so that we know what to answer. To maintain and stick to the time when we have to answer `yes' or `no' and if there is no chance/scope to at least jot down the pros and cons of an idea, I thought of suggesting to the group on what we are going to discuss. Yes. When there are so many people with different ideologies, there is bound to be difference of opinion. But that doesn't mean few members decide the fate of the group. Again mails are the evidence. Group is not just Hyderabad. It is also of members from US and Blr and from few other places as well. We should at least give a chance for US and Blr members who conduct monthly meetings and who contribute regularly. Objection on the MOM MOM is mailed to us. True. But the points on which I objected are not mailed to us before hand to raise objection there itself. Also when people have right to express doubts, questions on the MOMs that I write and post them directly to the group, why can't I? Members are still commenting on the cases/projects that are completed in a sense. We are not allowed to express our objection on the MOM. We will be asked on why we have an objection now and not in the meeting. I did not have enough time to make a proposal sink in the mind. That is why we expressed later. Also I was given an advice not to reply immediately but to take some time and reply. That is why I have taken days to respond. I took time to cross check with others on that is not my misinterpretation but a fact that we didnt come to conclusion on particular point and that is being posted as a decision. Are we allowed to give statements just like that without any base? I too ask now why people kept quiet and participated in the discussion with much enthusiasm and didn't raise the question of time in all the earlier meetings? Making a Difference Yes. The money 10,000 rs. that we give for a case that needs 3 lakhs need not be sufficient for a cause and is no where. I very much agree. But we are not allowed to spend our money completely for one case! Nor we are allowed to spend the particular 10,000 rs. that is not used in one month to be given to one case the next month but we should give to two cases. So what to do? (To oppose it immediately, we must have at least time to sync with the idea. Did we have that? When it stuck to us, I mailed my objection. ) If we wish to raise the entire amount that is a problem. If we wish to give some amount, that is also a problem. So the bottom line is not to take up individual medical cases at all. Again there are members who wish to give at least some amount from their pocket. No one expressed objection on it. So we proceed as such in cases. If we now get the questions like does it make any difference? Who are we to ask, if particular donor do not have any problem. This group will not run by the whims, fancies and ideologies of one or two persons. So far we tried to give room to the wishes of members. If I did not give respect to the decisions made in the last meeting, I do not have mailed to the group that we cannot give more than so and so amount for a case and if there are any individual donors. We rather I never objected the good changes one tries to bring to the group. We welcome. But the problem is that people make baseless comments and pass statements just like that. If most of us believe in Education and to support it, who objected. Well. Do that. But we shouldn't say that it is better if we would have contributed the money that we spent on medical cases. Right from the beginning we decided not to confine ourselves to one particular problem area. There are many groups to do that, why is there a need for us to start a group again to do the same!! So far there is not a single case that is not accepted by the group. It is not individually driven. No matter how much I personally feel a case is genuine, I never proceeded with the case if group or at least two members say `no'. Again the mails are evidence if not members. Busy People Very true. People who are busy cannot spend time or effort however much they wish to do so. Did we question any time? Did we try to judge people on the amount of work, time and money that they use for this group? The problem is that the busy people try to do the same with others also. There are many interested members who can do the things provided they will be given the tasks. Why to stop enthusiastic people from doing things? Why try to influence them asking do we work for satisfaction or do we work to gain knowledge? Let us be serious too. If some people do not have time. Fine. No problem. Why ask others also to be like that? If some people work only for satisfaction, fine. No problem. But why do not allow others who want to gain something by working in the group? Let us work in the way that we love to do. If someone wants to work in free time, fine. If someone wants to make some time and work, that is also fine. We provide options for everyone. Why to make an ordinance that we should let members work only in free time? If some of us wants to make/reserve some time and work, why object? If that is not the case, I would not have objected at all. Exclamation by a new member Of late people are trying to make advantage of that statement by one member who didn't turn up for the meeting as promised. Should we consider one such statement and work? If we start considering those statements, we cannot work. I will respond to members who at least tried to work for the group, tried to understand members. That is why I am responding to this mail also even though it is unsolicited. There is one good example for this statement by particular member. Earlier there was a serious exchange of mails between me and Krishna (who worked on Sireesha's case) and at the same time Karthik Jalamangala joined the group. He immediately expressed his dissatisfaction. I mailed him explaining the reasons. He understood. He is a member still. (I hope he will be too). If people keep on referring to one particular statement by a member who didn't turn up to the meeting and who didn't care to inform that he cannot come either on phone or mail, why should we give weightage to such comments? This is just taking an advantage of a single statement. Interpreting the way one likes. With so many members and different ideologies, there is bound to be difference of opinion and few arguments (when the discussion is not to come to a conclusion but to express one's own point of view). Every group has comments and arguments. If all of a sudden someone comes out of a blue and pass a statement, should we consider? Mails If they like, members wait for mails and exclaim why no mails in the group. If we mail, that is also a problem. Why again and again on the same topics means for the necessity. After two years with so many longstanding members we are not on the same page. If we proceed to go on as such, it will be so only. We are planning to register our group and if we proceed as such, there would be no point. For the questions and complaints on mail count, we created different yahoogroups. That is also a problem. Of late it has been like everything is a problem. Yes is also a problem. No is also a problem. That way we cannot work. My responses Members like it or not, I will give reply. I am answerable to the entire group and I will give answers to the people whom I respect. If I do not care, I need not object, I need not reply. Everyone should know the facts. If I keep quiet there is no chance for others to know the other side, others point of view. Accused should be given a chance to express his reasons and his point of view. If members feel it as quarrel or personal vengeance, I cannot help. In fact I have utmost respect for all the members in the group. I never treated this as a group but as a family. Many people commented me like anything, send few personal mails to me. I mean I received bashes on and offline. Though I am hurt, I kept quiet. I tried to look from others point of view. In fact I wanted to keep myself aloof from the group and let others run the show as they like, feeling that majority of members do not like my way of working. I cannot work against my convictions and principles. They are not ready. Still I asked members in the local group to say crystal clearly if they want me in the group or not. I am ready to leave at any point of time. That is not a problem. When I decided to leave I shared with others the reasons being the `Ideological differences'. But when members leave, a person is being mentioned as responsible. Great. Last but not the least: For the student suggested by Ratanji, Uday Bhaskar garu has sent Rs. 1000. This would be given either in cash or will be transferred to his account. Thank you. with regards, Prasanthi.
