From: Terry Clifton <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
How 'bout we take one of us each week, put that person on a chopping block and then the rest of us can verbally hack at him or her until all the victim's shortcomings lay bare.
Terry, in the proper environment this can be very healthy towards increasing introspection and building one's character, but in an environment such as TT, I feel it would only serve to destroy good people.
I say this because, as long as the people that commant 1) truly are our good friends, love us, and want to help us, and 2) can be honest wihthout being intentionally hurtful, then this will benefit those involved. However, I see so much on TT that is intended to hurt, that I feel in the TT environment such an exercise would only server to destroy. In such an emotionally charged environment, where most everyone's theology is the only right one, it would not be a pretty sight.
I was involved in an experiment a few (20) years ago where I was asked to approach my three closest friends, thell them of the experiment, then ask them to be totally honest with me and tell me exactly how they see me as a person. Believe me, there are many I would not have asked, even though I considered them friends, because I felt they could not be objective and to serve the good of the experiment, and not bring in their own baggage and intentionally slice me up, looking for an opportunity to better themselves at my expense. So, I chose very carefully. I chose those friends that I felt truly loved me, and wanted to help me better myself. I chose wisely, and the information they provided caused me to reflect heaviliy on myself, and hopefully to improve my character.
It is extremely beneficial to see yourself as others see you...but, you have to be able to trust that they have no agenda, and that they see you accurately without thier own colored spectacles getting in the way.
Perry
---------- "Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer every man." (Colossians 4:6) http://www.InnGlory.org
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