On Tue, Jul 12, 2011 at 7:24 AM, Bob in Jersey <[email protected]>wrote:

>
> The hospital's caseworker (oddly, her desk was straight outside Mom's
> room), and a liaison from the company that runs two of the three care-
> center choices Mom and Dad made, were very courteous and gracious,
> answering whatever questions they had (I had to go cool my heels in
> the floor's waiting area, where happily was a telly similar to the
> rooms); it appears that choice #1, not far from our favorite
> supermarket, will be taking her in for as of now two to three weeks;
> unlike with the hospital, she'll be wearing regular clothing which
> we'll have to launder.
>
> The only thing is, when it comes time to transport her, it's going to
> be blazing hot (mid-90s) and humid...
>
> I'll learn in the next day or two what cabler this center uses, and I
> hope it ain't the one we left in 2009...
>

I am glad this was a relatively good experience, and hope it is a good
placement for your Mom. I am a little worried about the company rep being
present (assuming that was the first meeting with the SW). Hospitals some
times have informal (or even formal) arrangements with certain providers to
push business their way (not necessarily for direct financial gain to the
hospital, though there are cases of physicians on staff at the hospital
owning an interest in care centers; more often just one hand washing the
other, with benefits in the form of easy or preferred placements,
participation in research studies, shared professional staff). Also, if your
Mom gave her permission, you should have been allowed to sit in on the
meeting.

I don't want to discourage you or set up suspicion about this placement,
assuming the professionalism of all involved there is good reason to be
optimistic about it. But if your mother gives her consent for you to be
present at either medical or placement conferences I would encourage you to
be as forceful as you want in insisting on it, and making sure that your
mother's interests are shared and addressed. Even good hospitals find their
lives are easier when they can deal only with their (many) elderly patients
and manipulate them one way or the other into arrangements which may be
optimal for the hospital, but not always for the patient. The more the
hospital knows there are other people with knowledge watching and keeping
tabs, the more incentive they have to do a good job.

In my experience with elderly patients, being able to wear their own regular
clothing is well worth having to launder them yourself.

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