Thank you so much for the advice. I'm putting "sitting" into action. I remembered Wu-Wei today. I tried for the first time. It was a little difficult, because a lot of my friends are very controlling. I went with the flow as best as i could. It was really interesting, I wanted to interfere at every turn. However, when I felt the impulse arise, I retreated. What a good counteraction.
Question: How can I eliminate clinging? I find that when I have a good time with friends, I just want to repeat the experience over and over. That seems impossible. Lately, I've noticed myself behaving that way, with my uni friends. I kept trying-overtrying-to repeat the experiences had, but I wasn't able. And, when I wasn't able, I became frustrated, irritated and glum. So, Friday, I decided to let-go. I let the cell-phone alone, I didn't email, or txt msg. I just sat. Intially, I had to will myself to sit, I kept wanting to jump up, grab the phone, and msg But, I managed through and kept on sitting. You know what? It felt good. My head felt lighter, and things seemed clearer. My friends were understanding too. Feedback? dkotschessa <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: --- In [email protected], "greentealeaf111" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > I've noticed every time I become emotionally attached to a person or > thing, situation, etc. I experience heartache. I feel that's where > I'm at right now. I've forgotten how to implement detachment. I'm > noticing more clingy behavior. Please help me get back on track with > the Zen teachings. I feel like they are only remedy to my current > state. > > Sometimes, when I'm in the height of attachment, I reject Zen as cold > and unfeeling because it puports detachment, silence, and wu-wei. I > was practicing Zen so well, last year, but I've forgotten the way. > Please reply...anyone. I prefer the term non-attachment to detachment. The word detachment just has too many negative connotations for most people. *Indifference* is really what you are worried about. And indifference is the "near enemy" to detachment. The "near enemy" of a state is sort of it's evil twin! For example, pity is the near-enemy of compassion. It looks a little bit like compassion, and can sometimes trick you, but it's not the same thing. So it is with indifference and non-attachment, or the even better word Equanimity. (Such a purty word too!) As far as your practice goes, well, you may just need to sit more and that's all there is to it. Sit sit sit! Loneliness is just another one of those emotional storms in your brain/body. Just acknowledge it and go back to your practice. Some people say you shouldn't sit too much, and that sitting more isn't exactly better. They are allowed to think that if they want, but I say more is better. So if you want to get back to it, sit! Take a day off, go to the woods or something. Take some books maybe, walk around, sit, walk, read. Don't get lost. Take a cell phone just in case. :) Then sit every day in the morning or before you go to bed or both. As far as the teachings, "forgetting" is exactly what you want to do, so... congratulations on forgetting the teachings! I read a lot, but I forget the teachings as soon as I put the book down. -DaveK Current Book Discussion: any Zen book that you recently have read or are reading! Talk about it today! SPONSORED LINKS Zen buddhism Tibetan buddhism Zen alarm clock Zen garden --------------------------------- YAHOO! GROUPS LINKS Visit your group "Zen_Forum" on the web. To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to the Yahoo! Terms of Service. --------------------------------- --------------------------------- Blab-away for as little as 1ยข/min. Make PC-to-Phone Calls using Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Join modern day disciples reach the disfigured and poor with hope and healing http://us.click.yahoo.com/lMct6A/Vp3LAA/i1hLAA/S27xlB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> Current Book Discussion: any Zen book that you recently have read or are reading! Talk about it today! Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Zen_Forum/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
