Wm.,
I suppose the phenomena you mention are indeed, are in fact, a problem to you
if you think or feel that they are.
I don't know yet if Zen practice is a way to help you with them.
There may be other, more immediate, ways.
But I know that any event or force or reason that brings us to Zen practice is
a fortunate one. I mean, we are lucky to make contact with Zen practice. It
usually does all people good who take it up and continue. But that can come
later.
I think it's more immediately called-for that you get some relief from the
current manifestations somehow. How can you do it? What comes to mind? Is
there enough time in the free week to see a talk therapist or counselor of some
kind?
On the other hand, I know that in Zen practice, sometimes certain purifications
occur to people spontaneously on intensive 7-day retreats with their teachers
and practice group. People will sometimes cry for several hours, or laugh, and
sometimes cry first and then laugh. These purifications leave them exhausted,
but very settled and calm, and then they can practice to a very deep level.
Not everyone goes through this, or needs to, and everyone is different when it
comes to Zen practice (which is why an experienced and qualified Zen teacher is
so valuable).
The shedding of emotion is physical, just as the bottling-up of emotion is
physical in its effects. It may be that the separation anxiety you experience
is "just" a trigger to the emotion that can apparently be released by you so
readily. You may in fact be fortunate to have such a trigger. Some people are
rather "hardened", and even though they sense or feel that they must release
emotion, they cannot DO it! You know best about your situation, though: the
anxiety or other manifestations may not just be from a simple trigger acting to
release emotions from many other sources: maybe it's all emotion due to the
recent losses and current separations.
If you have a general doctor, a general physician, may I please urge you to see
him or her soon?, just to mention what's going on? If you're willing, the Doc
can refer you quickly to someone who can help even better. But please, please
see the Doc, first. There are certain nutritional needs that can cause extra
sensitivities if they are deficient, and sometimes one person needs lots more
of something versus another person, depending on our digestive system's ability
to absorb certain minerals, etc. Even a lack of Iron (!) has such effects, and
is very simple to fix!
If you don't yet HAVE a general doctor, may I also please suggest that you see
one soon. You can find one or pick one, maybe by getting a recommendation from
a friend or family member. Or else, just go to the Yellow Pages (the book in
your house, or else online), and look under "Doctors", and call one or two, or
three. It's easy. No biggie. And worth every penny to get a vitamin or
mineral deficiency "fixed" quick.
That's the route I would take. See a Doc. Tell about what's going on. Ask if
there are vitamin deficiency tests the doc would order. If the tests come back
OK, then the Doc will know what else to suggest, by way of tests, or a simple
visit with someone to talk to. It's not rocket science! But I would have the
physical stuff checked, first. Our food is not as nutritious as it used to be!
Wishing you well.
Please keep us posted?
Or perhaps you already know that you are in the best of health. If not, don't
hesitate to use your time-off to find out: it's that important!, and easy! And
it will be very satisfying and lead to another stage of life. Even if the Doc
gives you a clean bill of health immediately, you'll feel better for that, too.
Do the simple stuff first!
Best,
--Joe / Arizona
> "wmcashierslave" wrote:
>
> My brother and I are from two different religons, but since my mother died
> in 08 I suffer from seperation anxiety when he leaves or my older brother and
> his family leaves. When I know it's time for them to leave I feel my guts tie
> in knots and I get nausiated and depressed and cry. they leave and I am
> depressed for a few good hours.
>
> This time my brother told me about the zen approache to life. I am a
> christian but I found I can use the zen ways to overcome my emotions, learn
> to meditate and over come crying and depression nausia and feeling terrible
> after they leave for a week or so. This time he talked to me and gave me a
> few practices to repeat to myself, hate that emotional problem, be free of
> it, it's useless and only makes me feel bad and is not good for me. I dont
> need it.
>
> I would like you guys to help me use zen to free myself of anger, depression
> seperation anxiety and work, I work retail and got so angry at work and life
> that I took a week off. I need to master my emotions...my brother said
> finding a good forum of people to help me with new zen techniques would help.
> I am a newbie to the zen world so if you dont mind...I do need to kick this
> problem...it's not doing me any good and I dont need to feel this way it's
> useless and I hate it.
>
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