Good description, even It helps to overcome my struggleing On 2/24/19, Shadab Husain <[email protected]> wrote: > Hi Alvesh, > > We’re adaptable. I too have gone through similar situations, and am > now living nicely. You too will feel better in some time. > > The blessing of blindness is that it decreases our choices and > therefore we’re saved from so much confusion. When you have fewer > choices, you feel more contentment because then you don't regret for > the things that weren’t there on the option table. > > Second, this might appear unintelligible to you, but as per one study, > people who get disabled feel more satisfied with life than others. > > The reason behind this? > > When disability meets them, they overestimate the difficulties and > frustrations that they may encounter. But as they steer their life > ahead, they uncover that life is far less tough than they had > imagined. > > They enjoy simple things like navigating their way independently. > Doing bank work on their own (I withdraw thousands and thousands of > bucks from the bank and have to move around alone.) > > > In the beginning newly disabled folks presume that life would be > extremely sad and depressing, but they soon get adjusted to their new > conditions and things begin to look cheerful. Their presumptions > contrast with their new reality and they feel their little > accomplishments to be bonuses. > > On marriage: You say that you might not get on well with your life > partner because of your blindness. > > Maybe yes, maybe no. > > Sorry, but no false hopes or encouragement. > > The truth is that there’re many unmarried disabled people who’re > living successfully. And many disabled people are enjoying their > married lives. > > Additionally, there’s a high chance for all married folks to get > separated from their life partners (disabled or otherwise.) Snoop > around a bit and you’ll find. > > You can keep that blindness thing out of the equation. > > Even if you get your sight restored, you can’t guarantee that > post-marriage everything will be rosy and fun. > > I was scared of marriage as it were a raging hurricane, but now I’m > blessed with a good wife and two little children. > > Besides having a good job, few of your blessings are: > > You’re brave, optimistic, and resilient. Had it not been so, you won’t > have written this email. > > You have desires. Had it not been so, you won’t have asked about > driving and marrying etc. > > You’re a man of action. Had it not been so, you won’t have asked about > books. > > (By the way, The Story of my Life by Helen Keller and How to Stop > Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie might prove rocket fuel for > your confidence.) > > Fall down seven times, stand up eight. > > Japanese proverb > > I like you and will be grateful to help you climb out of your > problems. Ph: +91-7379668382. > > Your friend, > > Shadab > > > > On 2/24/19, sazid shaik <[email protected]> wrote: >> Dear Alvesh, >> >> Even I am a late blind, working in railway department. Married with >> a sighted girl, my son is studying 7th class and my daughter is >> studying 3rd class. Certainly even I am passing same suitvation what >> yu are. in. in 2010 i can ride bike but now I cannot walk. my dear >> friend tried to adjust with life. >> >> Giving an example is easy but becoming an example is very difficult. >> >> So adjust with the life and move on. >> >> thanks and regards, >> sazid >> >> >> >> On 2/23/19, sanjeev kumar <[email protected]> wrote: >>> Please read book jeet aap ki >>> >>> On Sat, 23 Feb 2019, 1:59 p.m. Simran Chawla <[email protected] >>> wrote: >>> >>>> Hey Alvesh >>>> I can understand your situation. But just think that whatever has >>>> happened >>>> or whatever is happening, is happening for a reason, for your good >>>> rather. >>>> Be positive, think positively. That will easen your situation. Being >>>> negative will only worsen it. >>>> This is the reason why we call life a roller coaster ride. There are >>>> highs >>>> and lows and you should enjoy every bit of it. >>>> And the things that you want to do, those you can still do. Going to >>>> market and enjoying with friends, you can do that, why not. Just keep >>>> smiling :) >>>> >>>> And the books if you want to read, read a book named “The Power of your >>>> Subconscious Mind”. If you don’t find the pdf, let me know I’ll share >>>> that >>>> with you >>>> >>>> Best Regards >>>> Simran Chawla >>>> >>>> Sent from my iPhone >>>> >>>> > On 23-Feb-2019, at 10:34, George Abraham <[email protected]> wrote: >>>> > >>>> > Hi! >>>> > >>>> > I am George Abraham. Happy to talk with you and share ideas on how you >>>> could deal with your life situation. Please do call me on Monday at >>>> 9810934040. You could visit me in my office and we could try and charter >>>> out a plan for you to move on with life. >>>> > >>>> > Best, >>>> > >>>> > George >>>> > George Abraham >>>> > CEO >>>> > Score Foundation >>>> > 17/107 LGF >>>> > Vikram Vihar >>>> > Lajpat Nagar 4 >>>> > New Delhi 110024 >>>> > Email: [email protected] >>>> > Ph: +91 11 26472581/2 >>>> > Mob: +91 9810934040 >>>> > Website: www.scorefoundation.org.in , www.eyeway.org >>>> > Twitter: @georgebhai >>>> > Eyeway Helpdesk: 1800 300 20469 >>>> > >>>> > >>>> > >>>> > >>>> > -----Original Message----- >>>> > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On >>>> Behalf Of Alvesh Shokeen >>>> > Sent: Thursday, February 21, 2019 9:10 PM >>>> > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues >>>> concerning the disabled. >>>> > Subject: Re: [AI] Urgent emotional support required >>>> > >>>> > Thanks for your support friends. But indeed this is a difficult time >>>> > for >>>> me. I am unable to accept this condition. I haven't married so far just >>>> because of the reason that later in my life, what if my partner leaves >>>> me >>>> alone? I am unable to share my condition with my parants as wel as they >>>> will be completely disappointed listening that I will be blind in near >>>> future. >>>> > I am always fantasising about driving bike, going out in the market >>>> > with >>>> my friends , but all of sudden I realise, I am no more in that well >>>> condition to do these all things at my own. I will have to remain >>>> dependent >>>> upon others even for crossing the road, so what else can I do now? >>>> > You are right, I should have such friends who have gone through >>>> > similar >>>> experiences. Let me talk to the people. If possible, suggest me a good >>>> disability councellor to help me to change my approach. I am really in >>>> trouble. >>>> > >>>> >> On 2/21/19, Amar Jain <[email protected]> wrote: >>>> >> While I became blind in my early childhood, but more than happy to >>>> >> talk it through. >>>> >> >>>> >> Acceptance and ownership of your disability in this phase will decide >>>> >> your future. Feel free to call me on 9892622230. >>>> >> >>>> >> Regards, >>>> >> Amar Jain >>>> >> >>>> >> Sent from my iPhone >>>> >> >>>> >>> On 21-Feb-2019, at 7:35 PM, Vamshi. G <[email protected]> wrote: >>>> >>> >>>> >>> I am exactly like you. Could drive a bike ten years ago but can >>>> >>> not >>>> even >>>> >>> walk on the road. Don’t read books or videos. Meet and stay >>>> >>> together >>>> >>> with people who have similar conditions like you. Peer counsel is >>>> >>> the best medicine. Will be happy to help. Call me on 9949349497 . >>>> >>> >>>> >>> Remember that you are neither the first one nor the only one to >>>> >>> undergo this phase of life. Most of us had seen it in our lives. >>>> >>> >>>> >>> >>>> >>> >>>> >>> Regards >>>> >>> Vamshi >>>> >>> >>>> >>>> On 21-Feb-2019, at 6:47 PM, harshu dubey <[email protected]> >>>> wrote: >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> My name is Hari Narayan and I am am low vision too. I know it's >>>> >>>> difficult to accept few facts but please don't loose hope call me >>>> >>>> let's see if I could help you somewhere my number is 9821454995 >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> On Thu 21 Feb, 2019, 6:23 PM Alvesh Shokeen, >>>> >>>> <[email protected]> >>>> >>>> wrote: >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>>> Hi all, I am 32 year old, unmarried and posted on a reputed >>>> >>>>> government service. But I am gradually losing my sight due to RP. >>>> >>>>> Erlier I was able to see the world from my eyes, but now >>>> >>>>> everything >>>> >>>>> is becoming blurred. The matter of the fact is, I am gradually >>>> >>>>> losing the hope to live in this world. I cry all the time after >>>> >>>>> my >>>> office hours. >>>> >>>>> I feel lonely. 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