Dear Susan, I would agree that this is not the appropriate venue for discussing specific instances of resisting temptation. A certain decorum around this topic is required if we really want to address the issue. I picked up a couple of different things that the author may or may not have intended. 1.) I sensed a genuine frustration with not knowing how to handle a very difficult and provocative situation. 2.) I sensed a general tendency to want to hold women responsible for the sexual tone of an encounter. The second item bears a closer look. Both genders are equally responsible for establishing the tone of any given encounter. On the other hand neither gender can hold the other gender responsible for all the choices. Each individual is responsible for their actions, and their reactions. I don't include biological responses here, those are hard wired. However, one of the things that separates us from the animal is our ability to over-ride our instincts. What happens next, is a choice. With the exception of a sexual assault, both parties are equally responsible for where the encounter leads. Sheila --- Susan Maneck <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > What concerned me was the almost Calvinist > tone this discussion was > taking on. > > Who wears what, and when ? I also don't think this > list is an appropriate > forum > > for this discussion. > > Dear Rich, > > That was one problem. I think the other problem is > that we were getting blow > by blow accounts of attempts to turn them on. That's > not really appropriate > here, either. > > I don't think the subjects of sexuality as they > relate to the teachings in > general should be considered off-topic however. > > warmest, Susan > > > ---------- > You are subscribed to Baha'i Studies as: > mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > To unsubscribe send a blank email to > mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > Baha'i Studies is available through the following: > mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > http://list.jccc.net/cgi-bin/lyris.pl?enter=bahai-st > news://list.jccc.net/bahai-st > http://www.escribe.com/religion/bahaist (public) > http://www.mail-archive.com/[EMAIL PROTECTED] > (public) >
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