Jeff, you've hit on a very important point. I've always been a "group" kinda guy, starting with Cub and Boy Scouts, school science club as well as various bands I've played in. And then there've been volunteer religious groups. It's quite natural to bond with one person and not another, but I think you always have to look around and try to pull others in. So yes it's very important to reach out to newcomers, even if you're not inviting them over for a family get together.
On the other hand, as a new person in a group, and I don't care what kind of group we're talking about, if you don't put yourself into the mix, you'll never mix in. Jeff's experience is a good case in point. When you jump in to help with a project or a job, you will find yourself building relationships. It's working and learning together that brings a person into the group dynamic. If you don't step in, persistently, you'll probably always be out. Show up, reach out, be open, and understand that friendships are usually long term projects. That said, be a project manager. 73, JP, K5JPP > On 08/04/2021 3:03 PM Jeff Greer via BVARC <[email protected]> wrote: > > > Surprised and sorry to hear that some feel excluded... My experience has > been the exact opposite. As a newbie ham who had never been on HF, I > attended what must have been my 3rd or 4th BVARC meeting about 3 years ago, > and they happened to be doing elections. Nobody ran for Corresponding > Secretary, so I walked up to N5VCX as things were winding down and > volunteered to do it. I've been knee-deep in BVARC business ever since. > I've never felt ostracized, but I guess I didn't wait around for a welcome > committee, either... Maybe that was the difference. I've not seen anybody > here intentionally exclude anyone else, but perhaps we should be more mindful > about being explicitly welcoming. > > > > --------------------------------------------- > From: BVARC <[email protected]> on behalf of Eddie Runner via BVARC > <[email protected]> > Sent: Wednesday, August 4, 2021 1:53 PM > To: [email protected] <[email protected]> > Cc: Eddie Runner <[email protected]>; [email protected] > <[email protected]> > Subject: Re: [BVARC] Net problems > > > Thanks for posting this Ralph... I like the CLUB to see when this > happens... > > When the old guys clique, they do not even notice they are doing it. > If they dont get complaints they may never notice.... > > as a life member, > I hate it when the club is percieved that way.. And I probably do it as > well sometimes..( i dont know?) > > When I joined back in the 80s it was ALWAYS that way... over the decades > it has > gotten better... > > Join back up with us and help us to make it better!!! > no body knows if you dont speak up (and thanks for that) > > Eddie (NU5K) > > > > On Wednesday, August 4, 2021, 01:00:25 PM CDT, ke5hdf--- via BVARC > <[email protected]> wrote: > > > The comments made about how the net control operator made people fell not > welcome mirrors my experiences with BVARC on general over the years. The > club behavior. Has been .....Very strong cliques, if u are not a member we > don't want your inputs, come to a meeting and stand quiet at the wall. > I have tried to participate in activities, tried to invite BVARC to join > my activities, attended meetings every few years only to be always ignored. > > I dropped my membership years ago. > I watch the reflector on case there is an activity I can do on my own. > ________________________________________________ > Brazos Valley Amateur Radio Club > > BVARC mailing list > [email protected] mailto:[email protected] > http://mail.bvarc.org/mailman/listinfo/bvarc_bvarc.org > Publicly available archives are available here: > https://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > https://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > ________________________________________________ > Brazos Valley Amateur Radio Club > > BVARC mailing list > [email protected] > http://mail.bvarc.org/mailman/listinfo/bvarc_bvarc.org > Publicly available archives are available here: > https://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >
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