Larry, from my own experience of living with someone who does a lot of the things you describe, it sounds like a useful tool. Patrick
> -----Original Message----- > From: Larry C. Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > Sent: Tuesday, February 04, 2003 3:10 PM > To: CF-Community > Subject: RE: antidepressants (was RE: Kid takes OD over his Web Cam) > > > Another aspect of REBT is an attempt to change the shoulds to > preferences, > (from the REBT faq I mentioned earlier) > > REBT has discovered that when people impose rigid expectations on > themselves, other people, and the world they are likely to experience > unnecessary emotional distress. In REBT, these expectations > are expressed > as absolutistic "shoulds," "oughts," and "musts." For > example, "I should be > successful in important things I do at work" can get you into > emotional hot > water when you make mistakes or fail. REBT affirms the value of > achievement, but helps clients give up their demandingness for total > success at all times. REBT advocates instead a more > preferential system of > values: one which encourages people to work toward their professional > goals, but never to condemn and damn themselves when they > fail to achieve > them. In a similar way, REBT is useful in helping people from diverse > religious backgrounds to be more self-accepting, as well as > more accepting > of other people who may not share their particular values. > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 Your ad could be here. Monies from ads go to support these lists and provide more resources for the community. http://www.fusionauthority.com/ads.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
