Very much so. While there is some stuff I don't follow of - the confrontational approach to therapy for instance, its an effective method of dealing with things.
larry At 03:27 PM 2/4/03 -0500, you wrote: >Larry, from my own experience of living with someone who does a lot of the >things you describe, it sounds like a useful tool. >Patrick > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: Larry C. Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > Sent: Tuesday, February 04, 2003 3:10 PM > > To: CF-Community > > Subject: RE: antidepressants (was RE: Kid takes OD over his Web Cam) > > > > > > Another aspect of REBT is an attempt to change the shoulds to > > preferences, > > (from the REBT faq I mentioned earlier) > > > > REBT has discovered that when people impose rigid expectations on > > themselves, other people, and the world they are likely to experience > > unnecessary emotional distress. In REBT, these expectations > > are expressed > > as absolutistic "shoulds," "oughts," and "musts." For > > example, "I should be > > successful in important things I do at work" can get you into > > emotional hot > > water when you make mistakes or fail. REBT affirms the value of > > achievement, but helps clients give up their demandingness for total > > success at all times. REBT advocates instead a more > > preferential system of > > values: one which encourages people to work toward their professional > > goals, but never to condemn and damn themselves when they > > fail to achieve > > them. In a similar way, REBT is useful in helping people from diverse > > religious backgrounds to be more self-accepting, as well as > > more accepting > > of other people who may not share their particular values. > > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 This list and all House of Fusion resources hosted by CFHosting.com. The place for dependable ColdFusion Hosting. Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
