Some great advice! My wife, a very reluctant sailor, sought advice years ago from Edwin Gaynor (RIP). She did not act on his advice - which was " go racing" until this year. Made all the difference - along with sailing with girl friends on the Ideal 18s.
-- Jonathan Indigo C&C 35III SOUTHPORT CT > On Sep 22, 2014, at 13:26, Edd Schillay via CnC-List <cnc-list@cnc-list.com> > wrote: > > All, > > I’ve been lucky as well, but I can offer up some good tips: > > 1. If you race the boat, get her on to the racing team. I know this may > create the Seinfeld-esqe paradox of “Worlds Colliding”, but her comfort level > will increase drastically when she sees the boat heeling while under the > control of you and your able crew. A lot of her discomfort is based on safety > concerns, and when she’s out with you, she may think you are faking it by > pretending to enjoy the heel. Seeing it happen regularly to the delight of > you and others will go a long way. > > 2. Give her the wheel from time to time. Let her feel the power and control. > And don’t appear nervous - if she sees you enjoying the angle while she’s > driving, she’ll come to enjoy it while you are. > > 3. Get her a big, comfy chair. We have one of these on board: > http://www.westmarine.com/buy/west-marine--high-back-go-anywhere-seat-navy-blue--10967917. > Yes, it may interfere with getting to the winch handle. But when she’s > comfortable on board, she’ll gladly move when you make adjustments. Plus, a > comfy seat will cradle her and make her more comfortable. There’s a reason > why they have bucket seats and not benches in sports cars. > > 4. Let her add her personal touches on board. This past weekend, David Risch, > possibly to protect his masculinity hard-core racing image, was very quick to > point out that the frilly blue throw pillows in the cockpit were all Diane’s > idea and not his. Now I know how much we all like our boats to look fabulous, > but not, you know, FABULOUS, but, even still, just having them there, for > her, will make the boat that much more inviting to her. Good move, David. And > yes, the Enterprise has throw pillows on board too (but way more manly than > the ones David has.) :-) > > 5. Attend a Rendezvous. She’ll talk with the other spouses because, frankly, > she doesn’t want to hear the story that you’re telling the other guys about > how you braved the latest storm or finished a race with a leaking bilge pump. > And, surprisingly enough, you’ll find that they’re not talking about fashion, > flowers, frilly things or how much men suck, but about their experiences on > their boats — the exciting times, the scary times and how they felt when > things went wrong. They won’t feel alone and they will enjoy it all, even the > heeling, that much more. > > > All the best, > > Edd > > > Edd M. Schillay > Starship Enterprise > C&C 37+ | Sail No: NCC-1701-B > City Island, NY > Starship Enterprise's Captain's Log > > > >> On Sep 22, 2014, at 12:39 PM, Gary Nylander via CnC-List >> <cnc-list@cnc-list.com> wrote: >> >> I've been lucky. My first admiral was gung-ho for almost anything thrilling, >> so sailing on the windows was not a problem. We used to take our Coronado 15 >> dinghy out into the ocean from Marina del Rey and up to Santa Monica and >> back - surfing down the side of waves on the way back. (she then co-drove >> the IMSA 911).... >> >> Second admiral was much the same way - another 911 person - now the co-owner >> of Penniless - and running second in the Wednesday night B fleet (has a >> first place trophy from a few years back). >> >> Current admiral was raised by a father with an old Alden 46 yawl. After many >> summers spent sanding and varnishing, he would take it out when the wind was >> over 15, so it would move. Now, she doesn't like it when the rail is not >> close to the waves. >> >> As I said, I'm lucky. >> >> Gary >> ----- Original Message ----- >> From: Jean-Francois J Rivard via CnC-List >> To: cnc-list@cnc-list.com >> Sent: Monday, September 22, 2014 9:41 AM >> Subject: Stus-List wife dosen't like it when the boat leans >> >> I'm in the same boat (Pun intended) >> >> The kids dig it, every one except the dog and my wife loves to hang out on >> the rail when the wind pipes up. No matter how much I tell my wife that the >> lake winds and little chop are not even close to being a challenge for a >> boat that was meant for offshore racing / cruising she just sits there >> worried.. >> >> My biggest problem is that she does not participate much anymore. The few >> times she was grinding or doing something she kinda got into it. We tried >> her at the helm many times, she does not have much of a feel for it and >> typically looses focus which turns into luffing / half tacks.. When I try >> to talk her through it, she takes it as a personal dig on her sailing >> skills. Obviously, she's a bit short on skills, she's have never sailed >> before. >> >> My next attempt is to get her to take lessons from the local guy at the >> marina. (We're overdue for formal stuff) I meant to do it last year but >> much needed boat maintenance / updates drained the available funds. I >> figure (Hope) she'll be more receptive to the instructor's advice and >> instructions. >> >> I think if we can get her busy on the boat, she'll enjoy it better. >> >> -Francois >> 1990 34+ "Take Five" >> Lake Lanier, Georgia >> >> >> >> _______________________________________________ >> This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album >> >> Email address: >> CnC-List@cnc-list.com >> To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of >> page at: >> http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com >> >> _______________________________________________ >> This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album >> >> Email address: >> CnC-List@cnc-list.com >> To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of >> page at: >> http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com > > _______________________________________________ > This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album > > Email address: > CnC-List@cnc-list.com > To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of page > at: > http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com >
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