Just don't ask her to go up the mast to retrieve a halyard! Joel
On Mon, Sep 22, 2014 at 1:40 PM, Indigo via CnC-List <[email protected]> wrote: > Some great advice! My wife, a very reluctant sailor, sought advice years > ago from Edwin Gaynor (RIP). She did not act on his advice - which was " go > racing" until this year. Made all the difference - along with sailing with > girl friends on the Ideal 18s. > > -- > Jonathan > Indigo C&C 35III > SOUTHPORT CT > > On Sep 22, 2014, at 13:26, Edd Schillay via CnC-List < > [email protected]> wrote: > > All, > > I’ve been lucky as well, but I can offer up some good tips: > > 1. If you race the boat, get her on to the racing team. I know this may > create the Seinfeld-esqe paradox of “Worlds Colliding”, but her comfort > level will increase drastically when she sees the boat heeling while under > the control of you and your able crew. A lot of her discomfort is based on > safety concerns, and when she’s out with you, she may think you are faking > it by pretending to enjoy the heel. Seeing it happen regularly to the > delight of you and others will go a long way. > > 2. Give her the wheel from time to time. Let her feel the power and > control. And don’t appear nervous - if she sees you enjoying the angle > while she’s driving, she’ll come to enjoy it while you are. > > 3. Get her a big, comfy chair. We have one of these on board: > http://www.westmarine.com/buy/west-marine--high-back-go-anywhere-seat-navy-blue--10967917. > Yes, it may interfere with getting to the winch handle. But when she’s > comfortable on board, she’ll gladly move when you make adjustments. Plus, a > comfy seat will cradle her and make her more comfortable. There’s a reason > why they have bucket seats and not benches in sports cars. > > 4. Let her add her personal touches on board. This past weekend, David > Risch, possibly to protect his masculinity hard-core racing image, was very > quick to point out that the frilly blue throw pillows in the cockpit were > all Diane’s idea and not his. Now I know how much we all like our boats to > look fabulous, but not, you know, FABULOUS, but, even still, just having > them there, for her, will make the boat that much more inviting to her. > Good move, David. And yes, the Enterprise has throw pillows on board too > (but way more manly than the ones David has.) :-) > > 5. Attend a Rendezvous. She’ll talk with the other spouses because, > frankly, she doesn’t want to hear the story that you’re telling the other > guys about how you braved the latest storm or finished a race with a > leaking bilge pump. And, surprisingly enough, you’ll find that they’re not > talking about fashion, flowers, frilly things or how much men suck, but > about their experiences on their boats — the exciting times, the scary > times and how they felt when things went wrong. They won’t feel alone and > they will enjoy it all, even the heeling, that much more. > > > > All the best, > > Edd > > > Edd M. Schillay > Starship Enterprise > C&C 37+ | Sail No: NCC-1701-B > City Island, NY > Starship Enterprise's Captain's Log <http://enterpriseb.blogspot.com/> > > > > On Sep 22, 2014, at 12:39 PM, Gary Nylander via CnC-List < > [email protected]> wrote: > > I've been lucky. My first admiral was gung-ho for almost anything > thrilling, so sailing on the windows was not a problem. We used to take our > Coronado 15 dinghy out into the ocean from Marina del Rey and up to Santa > Monica and back - surfing down the side of waves on the way back. (she then > co-drove the IMSA 911).... > > Second admiral was much the same way - another 911 person - now the > co-owner of Penniless - and running second in the Wednesday night B fleet > (has a first place trophy from a few years back). > > Current admiral was raised by a father with an old Alden 46 yawl. After > many summers spent sanding and varnishing, he would take it out when the > wind was over 15, so it would move. Now, she doesn't like it when the rail > is not close to the waves. > > As I said, I'm lucky. > > Gary > > ----- Original Message ----- > *From:* Jean-Francois J Rivard via CnC-List <[email protected]> > *To:* [email protected] > *Sent:* Monday, September 22, 2014 9:41 AM > *Subject:* Stus-List wife dosen't like it when the boat leans > > > I'm in the same boat (Pun intended) > > The kids dig it, every one except the dog and my wife loves to hang > out on the rail when the wind pipes up. No matter how much I tell my wife > that the lake winds and little chop are not even close to being a challenge > for a boat that was meant for offshore racing / cruising she just sits > there worried.. > > My biggest problem is that she does not participate much anymore. The > few times she was grinding or doing something she kinda got into it. We > tried her at the helm many times, she does not have much of a feel for it > and typically looses focus which turns into luffing / half tacks.. When > I try to talk her through it, she takes it as a personal dig on her sailing > skills. Obviously, she's a bit short on skills, she's have never sailed > before. > > My next attempt is to get her to take lessons from the local guy at > the marina. (We're overdue for formal stuff) I meant to do it last year > but much needed boat maintenance / updates drained the available funds. I > figure (Hope) she'll be more receptive to the instructor's advice and > instructions. > > I think if we can get her busy on the boat, she'll enjoy it better. > > -Francois > 1990 34+ "Take Five" > Lake Lanier, Georgia > > > ------------------------------ > > _______________________________________________ > This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album > > Email address: > [email protected] > To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of > page at: > http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com > > _______________________________________________ > This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album > > Email address: > [email protected] > To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of > page at: > http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com > > > _______________________________________________ > This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album > > Email address: > [email protected] > To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of > page at: > http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com > > > _______________________________________________ > This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album > > Email address: > [email protected] > To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of > page at: > http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com > > > -- Joel 301 541 8551
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