Hello Oshiro Charles Paulo Mingzi Raghu Briana and all, I was asked by a silent member,Martina,a question I asked Briana on August 13th,the differences between 'attachment' and 'commitment' according to Buddhism.
'Attachment' which comes from human nature is what is called in Buddhism 'desires.' 'Commitment' then comes from our heart. When we talk about our relationships with life,it's like those with other people. 'Attachment' closes a lot of doors whileas 'Commitment' opens a lot more. 'Attachment' drags us deeper into a complicated life. 'Commitment' may seem demanding sometimes,but in the long run,it gives us more freedom... It takes time to tell which is which. 'Attachment' is some reflex that can't often reflect our inner wishes. 'Commitment' on the other hand is a conscious choice that responds to our ultimate values and goals. I am learning to tell the differences,especially when it comes to my 'attachment' or 'commitment' to the groups!;) And Oshiro,come on,if you're a geek or nerd,then what I am? A conservative,rigid,grumpy and narrow-minded teacher?!LOL It's an amusing challenge for me to penetrate people's prejudice or fallacies!;) And,Raghu,we are not what we do at all! I have known so many people from all walks of life so far,and I can tell you 'creativity' has nothing to do with their occupations,so as 'sense of humour'! Krysber,I hope you're reading this message,too! You and the other guys are the best examples!LOL Great day to us all! See you soon,Kysber! Pln On Aug 18, 3:56 pm, Rafael Oshiro <[email protected]> wrote: > Hi Claire, Pln and all!! > > It's really funny but it's true LOL > > About the IT guys in the group, I believe that it is due to we are always > curious about what's new in the Internet and everything we want to learn or > master we look upon the internet first of all. Moreover, in IT area it's > necessary to know English. > > I take that as a compliment, but we are used to the label 'geek' or 'nerd' > LOL > > Take care > Oshiro > > > > On Tue, Aug 18, 2009 at 10:24 AM, claire <[email protected]> wrote: > > > Hello Oshiro and everyone, > > > How true and funny is your last statement: > > > Men go to Europe for beer whileas women for perfume and fashion!LOL > > > I still don't know why there are so many IT guys here,but I know for > > sure what a relief that you aren't as boring as I suspected when I > > first joined!!!LOL > > > Don't get me wrong though! > > Please take it as a compliment as you all seem so > > versatile,witty,knowledgeable and helpful!;) > > > The IT world is definitely a better place with all these brainstorming > > activities of yours! > > > Good luck to all IT guys and those who benefit from their > > contributions like me! > > > Claire > > P.S.Oshiro,yes,I was extremely scared when I first enetered the prison > > with so many hostile eyes staring at us from the other side of the > > world! > > Moreover,I did have a dramatic change of my perspectives about > > everything in life...of what people takes for granted when we > > shouldn't... > > > On Aug 17, 7:18 pm, Rafael Oshiro <[email protected]> wrote: > > > Hi Pln and all, > > > > Thanks again!!! :) > > > > "Great minds think alike", you should post that quotation in Simone's > > thread > > > about the best quotation, statement, one-liner for you. LOL > > > > I have already talked to Mikhail too and he was about to leave his > > workplace > > > at the same time I had just arrived here to start my workday. But we had > > > time to exchange some words, it was good to talk to him. His an IT guy > > like > > > many members here, including me LOL. I believe there's a kind of > > difference > > > in me in one year ago until and now. Within that time, I've improved a > > lot > > > my writing skill and I'm still doing. Thanks to you and all the > > motivators > > > that we have here. > > > > I'm lucky to date a girlfriend like the one do. To be sincere, we haven't > > > planned all the places that we intend to visit there, but we have already > > > bought some magazines with maps and turistic places to visit in France, > > as > > > well as its prices and how to get there. I still haven't seen anything in > > > Brussels, but we still have time. Surely I'll ask ask you when I have > > some > > > doubt or curiosity, since you've already been there. I really appreciate > > > your support. You've sent me some suggestion about the beers that I can > > > taste there. LOL > > > > You may know that men go to europe thinking about beers and women about > > > perfumes and so on. LOL > > > > Great day you all!!! > > > Oshiro > > > > On Mon, Aug 17, 2009 at 7:29 AM, pln471 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > Hello Oshiro, > > > > > Well,as they say,"Great minds think alike!"LOL > > > > > We are all connected one way or another,as I can see from people > > > > around me or I have gotten to know on the Internet every day, > > > > no matter where we live or what we do as a living! > > > > > Like the lyrics in a song 'the Boxer' by Simon and Garfunkel(?), > > > > 'After changes upon changes,we are more or less the same.';) > > > > > I have been exchanging words with Mikhail(Misha) lately,and I told him > > > > that you are wiser,deeper and far more interesting than what I > > > > expected when I first joined eslpodcast last year!!!LOL > > > > > You're full of surprises yourself,too! > > > > Your girlfriend is surely a lucky girl!LOL > > > > > BTW,how's your preparation for the trip to Paris and Brussels getting > > > > on?;) > > > > If there's anything I can do to help,don't be a stranger,will you? > > > > > Best, > > > > Pln > > > > > On Aug 17, 6:59 am, Rafael Oshiro <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > Hi Pln and all!! > > > > > > Yeah, Pln, when I was writing to you, I was thinking about that, > > waiting > > > > > children to get adult, get married and build their own families seem > > to > > > > be a > > > > > good way to see if they were brought up properly. Now I see that you > > > > think > > > > > the same way. :) > > > > > Thanks, Pln, you're very kind!! I really hope I can be a good father. > > > > When I > > > > > saw what my parents have done for me and my brother, I'm convinced > > they > > > > have > > > > > performed really well their 'roles'. I will take them as an example. > > > > > > I liked you last phrase!!! > > > > > > Have a nice Monday you all!!! > > > > > Oshiro > > > > > > On Sat, Aug 15, 2009 at 11:01 AM, pln471 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > Hello Oshiro Gail Hani Charles Ed Josney Hema Rose Redwolf and all > > the > > > > > > rest,:) > > > > > > > "I 'might' be a good mother."LOL > > > > > > Time will tell,won't it? > > > > > > I'll just have to wait for my sons to get married,build their own > > > > > > families,and have their own little ones... > > > > > > Then perhaps one day out of the blue,they will come and confide to > > me, > > > > > > "I love you,Mom!You're the best!"LOL > > > > > > Then,I can be sure that I'm a good mother.What do you reckon?LOL > > > > > > > Your side of interpretation is very nice!I'm convinced by your > > point > > > > > > again!:) > > > > > > The more I read your messages,the wiser you are to me!:) > > > > > > I know I'm not the only one who feels this way...Right,ladies and > > > > > > gentlemen here? > > > > > > > Oh,I nearly forget to say something before I post,I think you will > > be > > > > > > a good father,too,Oshiro! > > > > > > Do you want to know why? > > > > > > Anyone who constantly asks himself/herself if he/she makes a good > > > > > > parent can't be a bad one at all!LOL > > > > > > > Beautiful Sunday,everyone wherever you are! > > > > > > Pln > > > > > > > On Aug 14, 4:43 pm, Rafael Oshiro <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > Hi everybody > > > > > > > > You are right, Pln, it's up to us turn bad things into good one. > > My > > > > > > > understanding of 'everythings happens for a reason' can be > > understood > > > > in > > > > > > > many ways. Certain things happen to us in order to get us > > sleeping on > > > > > > that > > > > > > > and take that as a lesson. > > > > > > > I believe that history won't reapeat itself too and I think you > > might > > > > be > > > > > > a > > > > > > > good mother :) > > > > > > > > It's hard to evaluate what a good mother/father is, isn't it? > > There > > > > are > > > > > > many > > > > > > > mothers and fathers in here and you all may have the same opinion > > as > > > > > > mine, > > > > > > > even though I'm not a father yet. :) > > > > > > > > Have a very nice friday you all!!! > > > > > > > Oshiro > > > > > > > > On Thu, Aug 13, 2009 at 8:05 AM, pln471 <[email protected]> > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > Hi Briana Charles Oshiro Anu and all, > > > > > > > > > What a cold-to-the-bone statement you gave, > > > > > > > > 'The closer we live,the more distant we become!' > > > > > > > > > Tell me what's the difference between 'attachment' and > > 'commitment' > > > > > > > > according to buddhism,Briana?;) > > > > > > > > > The statement,'Everything happens for a reason.' also creates > > some > > > > > > > > controversies,Oshiro.;) > > > > > > > > Some things in life don't happen for a reason,but it's up to us > > to > > > > > > > > turn the twists and turns for the better for our own good and > > for > > > > > > > > those who are dear to us... > > > > > > > > > I do believe in the theory of cause and effect instead. > > > > > > > > Whatever we say or do leads to a consequence,be it positive or > > > > > > > > negative. > > > > > > > > > Am I a good mother?LOL > > > > > > > > I have no idea what a good mother is... > > > > > > > > I only know that history can't repeat itself and that's why we > > are > > > > > > > > called human,isn't it?;) > > > > > > > > > Anu and Charles,one can't be wary of giving love to other > > humans > > > > > > > > because one is bound to be hurt or won't be loved back... > > > > > > > > All you need to do is to be out there to try and try again.No > > one > > > > can > > > > > > > > teach you the secret of love or life if you don't exercise it > > > > > > > > yourself! > > > > > > > > > Theories are just theories.Nothing teaches you better than > > doing it > > > > > > > > yourself.;) > > > > > > > > > Pleasant day to you and the rest! > > > > > > > > Pln > > > > > > > > > On Aug 13, 5:02 am, briana moore <[email protected]> > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > Hi Charles and all, > > > > > > > > > > Its a fact that no one gives birth to a child for the child's > > > > > > pleasure, > > > > > > > > but > > > > > > > > > the for one's own sake. My parents didn't do me a favour by > > > > giving me > > > > > > > > birth. > > > > > > > > > People have wives and children for their own benefit, > > happiness > > > > and > > > > > > > > > entertainment. > > > > > > > > > > So, parents must not expect too much from their children. > > Like > > > > > > parents, > > > > > > > > > children are independent humans too, who have their own lives > > and > > > > > > > > > aspirations. > > > > > > > > > > About daughters taking care of parents : Women are more > > caring, > > > > > > tender > > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > considerate. Also, daughters mostly live with their husbands, > > > > away > > > > > > from > > > > > > > > > their parents. This makes the bond between their parents and > > them > > > > > > > > stronger. > > > > > > > > > The closer you live, the distant you become. ;) > > > > > > > > > > "It is not a bad thing that children should occasionally, and > > > > > > politely, > > > > > > > > put > > > > > > > > > parents in their place." > > ... > > read more »- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text - --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "English Learner's Cafe" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/english_learners?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
