Hi NgoNam Oshiro and all, My parents gave me total freedom to do whatever I wanted since I was a teenager,and before those years,I was kind of brought up by my elder siblings. They only intervened once(OK more than once;)) because I wanted to drop out from high school...
After being a mother myself,I realized what kind of ordeal I had put them through being a troublesome daughter.:( I have 2 small boys with quite different temperaments who constantly remind me not to apply the same rules to them. For the one who's always cautious,thoughtful and proactive,there's no need for more discipline whereas another who's always fearless and reckless,we often have to be stricter to oversee what he is up to,then guide him out of danger or trouble. Sometimes,if it's not harmful to him or others,I encourage my husband to allow him to learn the lessons for himself. I think It works better than intervention or prevention. It's an important question that NgoNam posed: What can parents teach their children? For me,it's the self-respect and the respect for others and all living creatures. Besides that,it has to be being responsible for what you do and say which means being mentally and physically independent. Thank you for the question and good day to you two and all, Claire On Jul 1, 7:03 pm, Rafael Oshiro <[email protected]> wrote: > Hi NgoNam and all!! > > I like to think that when I have a child, I'll bring him/her up kind of > strict, not strict at all. I mean, attempting to raise my child with values > and respect with other. Let the children learn by themselves doesn't sound a > good way to educate them for me. > Maybe the law of the streets can disrupt them and when we notice, it's late > to take an action to revert the situation. > That's the way I was brought up my parents and this is my point of view > about that. > > Oshiro > > > > On Mon, Jun 29, 2009 at 11:33 PM, NgoNam <[email protected]> wrote: > > Hi all, > > > Would you like to discuss about a quite hard and practical issue: > > "Some parents raise their children with strict discipline while others > > leave them free to learn life's lessons on their own. Whichone of these > > approaches is better and why?". > > > Give your opinion please, > > Thanks- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text - --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "ESL Podcast". To post to this group, send email to: [email protected] or just reply this message For invite your friends, visit: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/members_invite Know how help us, visit this FAQ at: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/web/frequently-asked-questions -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
