Hi Pablo, Oshiro, Claire and others, Thank you very much for your very indiviadual and exciting responses. This is a topic question on writing task II of an IELTS book that I'm trying to write. To be honest, I'm really interested in discussing about topics related to education, especially methods of education. It's because when having the chance to study and experience something I always want to discover the secret of being good at that subject. Thus, teaching or influencing others, for me, is not so difficult once I've understand it thoroughly. You see, when you're able to teach or guide others, it means that you've mastered it.
Returning to our focal topic, I had that chance to experience my childhood and luckily was given nearly the total freedom to decide what I wanted to do since I was a rather little child. From my own experience, both ways of bringing-up children have their own advantages and disavantages and it must base on particular situations to decide which one is most suitable, and sometimes you need to combine harmoniously these two methods to creat your own solution for your child. Comparing the advantages and disadvantages of these two ways of bringing up children, I think the latter approach, leaving them free to learn life's lessons, is preferable in this modern world nowadays. Children today are very intelligent and aware of themselves. With good education they will soon understand the right and wrong, what they should do and what they shouldn't do in their daily lives. For these ones, parents don't need to give any strict disciplines as the major purpose of any diciplines is to threaten them and force them to follow you. From very begining years of our children we should encourage them to act with boldness instead of fear and try to think and do independently as much as they can. Obviously parents must always look after them, follow every their step but just give them the feeling of being freedom in their action. But for ones who are always disobedient it's necessary to formulate some rules and strict discipline to force them to be more obedient and disciplined. Above is just a piece of my thoughts, many problems such as advantages and disavantages of these two methods or many other factors haven't been covered entirely. So keep on discussing about them, hopefully I'll get a huge number of ideas about this topic so that I can complete my writing perfectly ^^ Keep on discussing please. Cheers, NgoNam ----- Original Message ----- From: "Pablo" <[email protected]> To: "ESL Podcast" <[email protected]> Sent: Friday, July 03, 2009 10:04 AM Subject: [ESL Podcast] Re: Raise children with strict discipline or leave them free to learn life's lessons on their own? > > Hi NgoNam, Oshiro, Claire and all, > > When my daughter was in her first school years I was strict with her > and I realized later it didn't work like that. My daughter became > fearful from me. She used to forget her homework and she didn't bring > her notebooks to home. Later the teacher asked me 'Why your daughter > isn't doing her homework?'. Only in that moment I realized that I was > in the wrong way. I change a lot about her because of that. The only > problem was her scholar performance, I mean, not her grades but her > skills, her handwriting and her scholar duties. Although she was above > the average. > > Now, and since ever we focus around values, about health, about > physical activity, the social part, etc. I mean, about the importance > of an integral development, and about the importance of enjoying her > childhood. > > She is twelve. She doesn't need a boyfriend. She needs a puppy! And > so do I! I'm relaxed with her but I keep complaining for basic things/ > responsibilities like the importance of be tidy, etc.. But that isn't > my cup of tea either ;) LOL > > I mean, rather than being strict or not, the important think is set an > example and spend time with them. I a parent keeps watching TV at > nights, why he/she would be entitled to ask too much to children? > > Thank you, > > Pablo > > > On 29 jun, 21:33, "NgoNam" <[email protected]> wrote: >> Hi all, >> >> Would you like to discuss about a quite hard and practical issue: >> "Some parents raise their children with strict discipline while others >> leave them free to learn life's lessons on their own. Whichone of these >> approaches is better and why?". >> >> Give your opinion please, >> Thanks > > --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "ESL Podcast". To post to this group, send email to: [email protected] or just reply this message For invite your friends, visit: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/members_invite Know how help us, visit this FAQ at: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/web/frequently-asked-questions -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
