Hi NgoNam Pablo Oshiro Claire and all other still silent ones,;) There's another point you haven't discussed which seems very common among parents.
Quite a lot of them,including me sometimes,tend to be either over- protective of their children or over-lenient to them. Children being brought up that way become too dependent on their parents till very late years and lose their ability to cope with the reality.:( They are spoiled or pampered by their parents too much. How can we be a 'prince' or 'princess' forever?LOL Good night, Pln On Jul 3, 8:56 pm, "NgoNam" <[email protected]> wrote: > Hi Pablo, Oshiro, Claire and others, > > Thank you very much for your very indiviadual and exciting responses. > This is a topic question on writing task II of an IELTS book that I'm trying > to write. > To be honest, I'm really interested in discussing about topics related to > education, especially methods of education. It's because when having the > chance to study and experience something I always want to discover the > secret of being good at that subject. Thus, teaching or influencing others, > for me, is not so difficult once I've understand it thoroughly. You see, > when you're able to teach or guide others, it means that you've mastered it. > > Returning to our focal topic, I had that chance to experience my childhood > and luckily was given nearly the total freedom to decide what I wanted to do > since I was a rather little child. From my own experience, both ways of > bringing-up children have their own advantages and disavantages and it must > base on particular situations to decide which one is most suitable, and > sometimes you need to combine harmoniously these two methods to creat your > own solution for your child. > > Comparing the advantages and disadvantages of these two ways of bringing up > children, I think the latter approach, leaving them free to learn life's > lessons, is preferable in this modern world nowadays. Children today are > very intelligent and aware of themselves. With good education they will soon > understand the right and wrong, what they should do and what they shouldn't > do in their daily lives. For these ones, parents don't need to give any > strict disciplines as the major purpose of any diciplines is to threaten > them and force them to follow you. From very begining years of our children > we should encourage them to act with boldness instead of fear and try to > think and do independently as much as they can. Obviously parents must > always look after them, follow every their step but just give them the > feeling of being freedom in their action. > But for ones who are always disobedient it's necessary to formulate some > rules and strict discipline to force them to be more obedient and > disciplined. > > Above is just a piece of my thoughts, many problems such as advantages and > disavantages of these two methods or many other factors haven't been covered > entirely. So keep on discussing about them, hopefully I'll get a huge number > of ideas about this topic so that I can complete my writing perfectly ^^ > > Keep on discussing please. > Cheers, > > NgoNam > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Pablo" <[email protected]> > To: "ESL Podcast" <[email protected]> > Sent: Friday, July 03, 2009 10:04 AM > Subject: [ESL Podcast] Re: Raise children with strict discipline or leave > > them free to learn life's lessons on their own? > > > Hi NgoNam, Oshiro, Claire and all, > > > When my daughter was in her first school years I was strict with her > > and I realized later it didn't work like that. My daughter became > > fearful from me. She used to forget her homework and she didn't bring > > her notebooks to home. Later the teacher asked me 'Why your daughter > > isn't doing her homework?'. Only in that moment I realized that I was > > in the wrong way. I change a lot about her because of that. The only > > problem was her scholar performance, I mean, not her grades but her > > skills, her handwriting and her scholar duties. Although she was above > > the average. > > > Now, and since ever we focus around values, about health, about > > physical activity, the social part, etc. I mean, about the importance > > of an integral development, and about the importance of enjoying her > > childhood. > > > She is twelve. She doesn't need a boyfriend. She needs a puppy! And > > so do I! I'm relaxed with her but I keep complaining for basic things/ > > responsibilities like the importance of be tidy, etc.. But that isn't > > my cup of tea either ;) LOL > > > I mean, rather than being strict or not, the important think is set an > > example and spend time with them. I a parent keeps watching TV at > > nights, why he/she would be entitled to ask too much to children? > > > Thank you, > > > Pablo > > > On 29 jun, 21:33, "NgoNam" <[email protected]> wrote: > >> Hi all, > > >> Would you like to discuss about a quite hard and practical issue: > >> "Some parents raise their children with strict discipline while others > >> leave them free to learn life's lessons on their own. Whichone of these > >> approaches is better and why?". > > >> Give your opinion please, > >> Thanks- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text - --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "ESL Podcast". 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