--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <authfriend@...> wrote:
>
> --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "feste37" <feste37@> wrote:
> >
> > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <authfriend@> wrote:
> > >
> > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@> wrote:
> > > >
> > > > but but but, Judy, what about the Go to hell and bake bagels
> > > > That seems like a curse to me!
> > >
> > > I'll assume you're just joking here.
> > >
> > > Â Anyway, in case it was to me, here's my reply:
> > > > Bagels from hell with love, gluten
> > > > free for thee and all that lies beneath your
> > > > grateful belly button, etc.
> > > >
> > > > BTW I take everything everybody says and see how it fits
> > > > with my own experience. So nobody really CONVINCES me of
> > > > anything.
> > >
> > > Your self-report is duly noted. Whether it's accurate
> > > is another question. Let's just say you give every
> > > appearance of being easily swayed by those who purport
> > > to support you.
> > >
> > > > As for your list of trustworthy people, I think all and all
> > > > it's a really good list. But 1 or 2 people on that list often
> > > > sound prejudiced against me.
> > >
> > > Yes, as I believe I said, some of us may give you a hard
> > > time now and then. I said you could trust us, not that we
> > > all thought you were a swell person (nor that we felt *we*
> > > could trust *you*, for that matter).
> > >
> > > > Fine, it's their right, etc. But hopefully they'll
> > > > understand why I then won't be giving their words on
> > > > anything, much less on me, much credence as a result.
> > >
> > > By all means, shut out anything anyone says about you
> > > that's negative and dismiss it as "prejudiced." (You
> > > might want to consult a good dictionary for the meaning
> > > of that term, BTW. I do not think it means what you
> > > think it means.)
> > >
> > > > And I do realize that I might be sensitive about this
> > > > so I do apologize if I'm misinterpreting someone about
> > > > this.
> > > >
> > > > As best as I can, I resist getting sucked into the ongoing
> > > > feud on FFL and I will continue to do this. I aim to take
> > > > each post on its own merit, believing that people do change
> > > > and grow in their ability to experience and express truth.
> > >
> > > Interesting that you believe you can "change and grow" in
> > > your "ability to experience and express truth" while
> > > dismissing without consideration anything negative about
> > > yourself as "prejudice."
> > >
> > > Remember what I told you about being accountable for your
> > > behavior to the FFL community.
> >
> > You are sounding like a pompous, finger-wagging ass, authfriend.
>
> (Says feste pompously, wagging his finger. Gee, and just
> yesterday I had melted down and was reduced to sputtering
> Yiddish insults. Pretty quick recovery, wouldn't you say?)
Indeed, an excellent recovery. Back to your normal self in no time. The thing
is authfriend, I actually like you, but it makes me mad when you lay into Share
the way you do. It seems unfair and disrespectful. Share enjoys FFL, and most
people here appreciate her, so I wish you could stretch yourself and be a
little bit nicer to her. Why should that be so hard? The incident that seems to
bug you most took place so long ago, why not just forget it, let it go?
You talk all the time about honesty and truth, but such things are not always
as black and white as you would like us to believe. Our opinions about all
kinds of things can change as we reflect on them and consider them. A person
can react in a certain way at the time to some incident involving someone else,
but later (days, weeks, even months), the incident might seem rather different
to them than it did at first. So they start to recontextualize it, to think of
it in a different light. This happens all the time in relationships. It doesn't
mean the person is being dishonest. Indeed, sometimes it means that they are in
fact being very honest -- to their changing feelings and understandings about
what took place.
Share has tried in her own way to make it right with you, so why not take a
step or two toward her?
>
> > I suggest you drop the smug sense of superiority you exude when
> > writing to Share. Share has more empathy, compassion, humor, and
> > humility than you can even dream about.
>
> I would far rather be a pompous, finger-wagging ass than
> a person overflowing with empathy, compassion, humor, and
> humility that are phonier than a three-dollar bill, at
> least as she shows up on FFL.
>
> > And if we are all "accountable" for our behavior to the "FFL
> > community," isn't it about time that we held YOU accountable
> > for YOUR behavior?
>
> You're missing the context of what I told her. Yes, of
> course I'm accountable in exactly the same way she is,
> which means I don't get to counter negative impressions
> of my behavior from folks in the FFL community by
> protesting that people who have known me for many years
> offline think of me differently and that FFL members
> don't know me as I really am.
>
> For the full context, see posts 340145 and 340163. They
> aren't long. Then maybe you can make sense of my response
> above to Share's claim that some FFLers are "prejudiced"
> against her so she's just going to ignore anything
> negative they say to or about her.
>
