--- In [email protected], Vaj <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > On Dec 8, 2005, at 7:20 AM, anonymousff wrote: > > > Had he > > been a foster child, his ability to attach, ability to love and > > intellect would not have made him a horror but a joy to have, love and > > hold. > > I don't know that that would be the case. My one child, we were his > 12th home by the age of 5 and he was not removed from his family of > origin till he was 2. In a child like that, all they have to do is > act out till the system moves them; and they move from house to house > to house. again and again and again. > > I know one women who was in over 85 foster placements. She did > recover but not until after long term placement in one of two long > term attachment facilities in the country. We need more. >
You're obsessed with this foster home thing, aren't you? Foster home was never an issues or an option where this child grew up. Family took in a child when his or her parents died. Try to imagine that life is not organized nor every nook and crany of the world constructed the way you've experienced it nor make your practice in it for just amoment. The child grew up in a nice surburban/collegate but not affluent area where the system and foster homes didn't exist. Children were cared for by every neighbor and relative. If your nose was running, a neighbor handed you a hanky and told you to blow. If it was lunch time, they called your mom, told you were there and asked if it was OK to have the child eat with the family. If your shoe laces were untied and you didn't quite have the knack of it, a stranger would do the honors. People just didn't get involved in the "discipline" of a child, which is what people considered this case to be. It was a different time, a different place. The entire world is not the ghetto and there still are places where charity begins and ends next door. The neighbor's wife died very young of pneumonia after an illness that lasted all of 24 hours. The neighbors women visited on a rotation basis to raise the children and console and feed the husband. No kidding. ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Need Help? Get Help! Tools and Strategies for Healthy Drug-Free Living</a>. http://us.click.yahoo.com/wI.OUB/dbOLAA/d1hLAA/0NYolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
