--- In [email protected], TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In [email protected], "sparaig" <sparaig@> wrote: > > > > Usually women confide in each other, not with men, > > when they are molested or have affairs. > > I would say that it depends upon the woman > and on the man in question. I have been the > confidant for quite a few women who have been > in the position of sleeping with or being > propositioned by their spiritual teacher. If > you haven't, you might listen up and learn > a little something. > > It's not easy. It's often mind-shattering and > life-shattering. It's an experience that is all > too often Shakespearean in its ability to take > the student involved to extremes of emotional > and spiritual crisis. > > It's *not* Just Another Male-Female Relationship. > In terms of the imbalance of power in the equation, > it's more like the President of a corporation > hitting on his secretary than it is Dick And Jane > Find Love In The Ashram. In terms of violation of > trust issues, it's more like discovering that your > father wants to get into your pants than it is > discovering that the pizza guy gives you free Coke > because *he* wants to get into your pants. It's > *heavy*. > > I've talked to women who were married when their > teacher hit on them. And who subsequently were > divorced and spent years in therapy. I've talked > to women who cheated on their committed-relation- > ship boyfriends with their spiritual teacher, and > had to live with the guilt of lying to the boyfriend, > because the teacher told them to. It's not a pretty > scene. And the *worst* thing I can report from my > conversations with such women is that many of > them have turned their back on spiritual practice > forever as a result of the power differential being > abused and their trust being violated by a supposed > spiritual teacher. > > If no woman has ever talked to you about this stuff, > don't be so quick to claim it's because they only > talk about it to other women. They talk to anyone > whom they think will really listen. >
So, in the case of MMY's secretaries, you think they would talk to the guy who "procurred" them for him?
