When a beloved pet companion passed, I went to the Pet Bereavement group in my local humane society. It helped. One thing I do remember, was the group facilitator saying that the ability to bond with a pet is a gift. Not everyone is fortunate enough to have that gift. Sometimes, I wish I didn't. But most times I'm glad I do.
Christine On May 19, 2016 11:56 AM, "Marsha" <mar...@lynxe.com> wrote: > Sandy, I don't plan on seeing him again, except maybe when I am up to it, > to tell him how I felt. I did write a review in HealthGrades on him. The > one other person gave him 5 stars. I keep a journal for each of my cats (I > use Microsoft OneNote), writing down cute things they did, or interactions > with other cats. And when I am caring for a cat that is ill, the > journaling is daily...what they ate, when they ate, how they seem to be > feeling, physical activity, etc. Noelle has her final appointment late > this afternoon, near the end of the vet's day so we can have an unhurried > time, not squeezed between. She is laying on the bed behind me right now. > > I named my Noelle because I got her in December. She was eating food at > the colony I cared for. A little friendlier than normal feral, but I don't > think she'd ever lived indoors before, and when she was spayed, the vet > noted she had previously been pregnant. Possibly she had been a barn cat, > since I lived at the edge of town adjacent to two farms. No one claimed > her. She is probably related to several of my other cats, including FeLV+ > Milkdud, who passed away 2 years ago around this time. Noelle tested > negative for FeLV twice. She was the first of the colony that I took in. > She is a calico, large patches of gray and orange tabby over white. > > Marsha > > On 5/19/2016 10:03 AM, swacht wrote: > >> Marsha, I'm so sorry for your loss. I really don't know if I'd continue >> with this "counselor". Would you be comfortable with keeping a daily >> journal - write about your grief - write about Noelle ( I have a cat named >> Noelle) - write about 1 thing that gives you a good feeling. >> For me, I found writing helped with my losses. Please give it a try. >> Sandy W >> >> -----Original Message----- From: Rachel Dagner >> Sent: Thursday, May 19, 2016 7:45 AM >> To: Margo ; felvtalk@felineleukemia.org >> Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] Winstrol >> >> Margo are you a nurse? Pets or people? I am thinking pets since you said >> you have assisted with transfusions. >> >> >> Sent from my iPhone >> >> On May 19, 2016, at 7:16 AM, Margo <toomanykitti...@earthlink.net> wrote: >>> >>> >>> Marsha, I'm so sorry. >>> >>> What this "counselor" lacks is compassion. And any empathy for others. >>> He does NOT belong in this profession. He needs to go dig ditches, >>> somewhere far from actual humans. >>> >>> Common sense doesn't seem to have much to do with this. You are >>> struggling with grief, anxiety and hopelessness. Basically he told you to >>> pic yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again. I'm surprised >>> he didn't sing it :( >>> >>> Can you switch "counselors"? What kind of qualifications does this >>> ...man...hold? >>> >>> I have more, but want you to know that you're not alone...there any many >>> "common sense"less people in the world, and they make it a much better >>> place... >>> >>> Back after rounds >>> >>> Margo >>> >>> >>> >>> -----Original Message----- >>> >>>> From: Marsha <mar...@lynxe.com> >>>> Sent: May 18, 2016 8:55 PM >>>> To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org >>>> Subject: Re: [Felvtalk] Winstrol >>>> >>>> I went to a counselor last month to help me cope with all that is on my >>>> plate. During the 2nd session (1st one was the intake), he informed me >>>> that I lacked common sense (regarding money and animals). Then he said >>>> he loves animals too, and everybody lacks common sense in some way - >>>> some drink too much, some eat too much, etc. When I told him that I >>>> wasn't looking for any more cats to take in, he said, "Good for you!" >>>> All my brain processed was the word "good", which made his statement >>>> come across as highly judgemental. I was more anxious and feeling more >>>> hopeless after I left. Two things I was seeking help for. I don't need >>>> that kind of help. I am pretty sure that lacking common sense is not a >>>> diagnosis in any way. And even if it was, how would you treat it? Plus >>>> I was very depressed and crying because the last time I saw this >>>> counselor was the day before Brock died, and I still have Noelle to care >>>> for (sinus cancer). I would like to tell him that HE lacked common >>>> sense in saying such things to someone in the throes of depression. >>>> >>>> Marsha >>>> >>>> > > _______________________________________________ > Felvtalk mailing list > Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org > http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org >
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