I prefer embarrassed to shamed - perhaps there's a spectrum from proud to embarrassed to shamed to guilty.
Perhaps white lies do not grease your part of the wheels of society - but I'm reasonably sure, based on my experience, that they are in use in many societies including ours. There's the blatant pretense of privacy that Marcus mentioned exists in Japan. There's the "white" lies mentioned in books of etiquette. There's the common jokes about answering one's SO's question of whether they look good (in particular clothing or after getting their hair styled or ….). These are all proof that we lie frequently in order to grease the wheels of society. Ray Parks Consilient Heuristician/IDART Program Manager V: 505-844-4024 M: 505-238-9359 P: 505-951-6084 NIPR: rcpa...@sandia.gov<mailto:rcpa...@sandia.gov> SIPR: rcpar...@sandia.doe.sgov.gov<mailto:rcpar...@sandia.doe.sgov.gov> (send NIPR reminder) JWICS: dopa...@doe.ic.gov<mailto:dopa...@doe.ic.gov> (send NIPR reminder) On Jan 16, 2013, at 3:01 PM, Nicholas Thompson wrote: Raymond, I guess I am a behaviorist about shame. If my behavior makes me blush than it was shameful. Guilt, on the other hand is something the law determines. Just my way of talking, I guess. But why do petty lies grease the wheels of society. What lies behind that confident assertion?
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