Hi Lobster and Joyce, Lobster wrote:
>Hi Desi, > >Perhaps so. >However we exist in a world where being hypersensitive >is not conducive to our well being. >It involves suffering for us. > > I don't like the term "hypersensitive" it sounds like a disease. I like to talk of highly sensitive and high sensitivity. Has a much better sound to it. We live in a world where many of our qualities could involve suffering. Being a woman can involve suffering. Even still in Western modern society. This involved a lot more suffering though a century and longer ago. The position of women has much improved though, mainly because many women in the past have stood up for us. They have fought and suffered for us, so we got the right to vote, the right to have educations and carriers, so that we are now respected more, have more chances and more freedom. Being a colored person still involves a lot of suffering all around the world. But what if there had never been people who stood up against slavory, stood up against apartheid, stood up for equal rights of all people. Things would be much worse than they are now. >Therefore we are out of step with the real world >or if you must it is out of step . . . > >You will find it is easier to change one person >rather than the whole world. > > You know of me that I always look at myself and work with the transformational proces that comes from that. I go further in that than almost anybody I know. However, (IMO) highly sensitive people are treated in an inferior way in this society. Our particular talents are not valued, we are seen as weak and often diagnosed with mental illnesses. Only because the norm is to be less sensitive, more agressive and oriented on the external world. Highly sensitive people are often very gifted, artistic, intelligent and have innate wisdom. Yet we often underachieve and are regarded as inferior. Therefor we easily end up in a lower income scale than we could have achieved if there was more space for us to educate ourselves in a way that works for us, and more appreciation for what we have to offer. And therefor we often end up in bad housing situations that are too noisy and we get exposed to too many toxins. Because the problem of poverty is, that one can have not enough influence over ones enviroment. This is a bad situation, brought about by prejudice, lack of knowedge and mere convention. I think it is high time something changed here. Emancipation appears to be nessesary to me. Also highly sensitive people will notice sooner than other people that there is something wrong: like too much pollution, too much disquiet,etc. But soon many others will get sick as well. This will continue as long as we take it and do nothing about it and keep on thinking that we only have to change ourselves. >The question is one of managing sensitivity >and developing appropriate responses. >One such possibility is NLP, Visualisation and Hypnosis >- which you are familiar with. > > And which I already use! However I cannot change the disposition of being a highly sensitive person, and do not chose to. Just as I am born as a woman, which I cannot and most of all do not want to change. I'm replying to Joyce here too. I do not want to get into discussions, of which I wonder if they are at all on topic here. That I do not appreciate all the suggestions and advice, is nothing personal. The point is, that you even mention "complaining" I am sorry that you peceive it that way. Maybe I am not communicating this skillfully enough. I know that you are a highly sensitive person too. The kind of responses I would like, are those of recognition and support. Because I DO intend to stand up for myself and other highly sensitive people. This is a matter that needs emancipation. I made a choise to do this, years ago. You know, it strikes me how even, we sensitive people amongst each other, often think of our qualities in terms of disease, complaining and needing help and good advice in coping. I think we should stop that and be aware that we stand up for qualities, for strenght, being gifted and having inner wisdom. And our needs, to be able to develop these qualities, so that we can be of better service to this world. Needs like a wholesome enviroment to live in, enough free space in school and work situations to experiment and explore and come up with original ideas. Essential, basic needs like this. I am not sure if I may need to practice my skilful means in communicating this even more, or that we are so used to hear the experiences connected to high sensitivity as problems, complaining, needing help. It is probably both. >Not a problem? > >Then we will not hear about it again . . . > >We shall see . . . > > I plan to keep talking about this, until I am heard, help to raise awareness, etc. I don't want to become preachy though. nd I am not sure if this is so much on topic for this group. (It is at the heart of my inspirition for FreeFlow for sure.) Yet I would like some support, of other sensitive people, who know what I am talking about. Not so much for me personally, though it would help. But most of all for many generations to come. Love, Desi ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Yahoo! Domains - Claim yours for only $14.70 http://us.click.yahoo.com/Z1wmxD/DREIAA/yQLSAA/_bWolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/HolyGeek/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! 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