On Tue, March 27, 2007 4:55 am, Andrew Lentvorski wrote: > Christian Seberino wrote: >> A marriage *is* a commitment. > > No, a marriage is an ungainly amalgamation of a contract and a religious > ceremony entered into for various reasons. Commitment to partner is > simply one of the many reasons (and, sadly, often not the most important > one); this is part of the reason for the high divorce rate.
One could perhaps say there are 2 parts to a marriage...(A) the sincere commitment between 2 people and (B) the legal formalities to make it official. I agree people could have (B) without (A). (A) is the more important part IMHO. >> If some guy told our daughters that they were committed but "didn't >> believe in marriage" we both know that's a bunch of crap > > You have a profoundly narrow view of human social interaction. > > Of the people I know who ever identify as committed but not married, a > quick count on my fingers places the separation rate at 12%. > > Whereas the separation rate amongst my married friends sits just above > 50%. > > Funnily enough, the people who actively choose to be with their partner > every day seem to do better than those who are merely married. Go figure. What do these numbers mean? Are you saying making a public and legal profession of your commitment somehow weakens the commitment? Why would people be committed but not married? Why would they not be willing to do the legal paperwork? Are they really committed? Is their relationship a secret? Chris Chris -- [email protected] http://www.kernel-panic.org/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/kplug-list
