Christian Seberino wrote:
On Mon, March 26, 2007 11:55 pm, Karl Cunningham wrote:
For most of us, our
first significant relationship is not with the person we end up with
late in life. Those earlier relationships can, IMO, successfully be
sexual as well as emotional. And they may be entered into with long-time
goals in mind, or not.
If very young people are not ready to get married for the reasons you said
then isn't that a good argument that it might be better for them to delay
sex until they *are* ready to get married and avoid lots of problems?
Those problems being? Please elaborate. Please show how the problems of
having sex and not getting married are worse or less than those of which
can occur within marriage.
Also explain again how sex and marriage are intrinsically related.
Please refrain from quoting the Bible in support of your beliefs.
Instead, give us some empirical evidence.
You seem to equate the biological and emotional maturity to engage in
sex as somehow directly related to the legal, moral, emotional ability
or need or religious imperative to marry. How is this so? Being able to
have sex is not a requirement of marriage. Being married is not a
requirement for having sex. Being emotionally and intellectually mature,
while not a necessity, is a useful preference for both acts. If you are
implying that the institution of marriage promotes a behaviour that only
emotionally and intellectually mature and responsible people will have
sex, even the most basic observation of Human behavior seems to
contradict that belief.
This isn't a religious question just a practical question. Let me put it
another way, if you weren't an expert in the stock market would it make
sense for you to invest all your life savings in your stock picks before
you learned a few things first? Does that really sound that crazy and old
fashioned?
A pretty weak analogy. But buying stocks does have one thing in common
with marriage: the belief that one has exclusive control over the
outcome of such a transaction is sure to lead to grief in the future.
For many people, myself included, spending one's entire life with one
partner is not a very probable outcome. Shit happens, as they say.
What do you mean? Please elaborate. What could happen that a marriage
couldn't work through?
Chris
Are you really that naive?
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