On 3/28/2007 3:43 PM, Christian Seberino wrote:
Well thanks for your honesty. If you also allow your wife to leave you if she finds some characteristic in you or a condition she doesn't like then it sounds like you are being consistent. I hope she doesn't have bad pizza someday and decide to leave you for some flimsy reason. And I assume if we asked her she'd agree that's the deal?...that she isn't assuming you'll stick around if you find something displeasing in her?
This is something my wife and I have discussed at length, agree on, and continue to discuss from time to time. We know we're going to change so it's important that we keep tabs on where each of is ourselves as well as where the other is. That's part of the fun and excitement of a dynamic relationship.
Shortly after my wife and I became romantically involved, we talked about (and wrote about) how we can rely on our dedication to our relationship and our problem-solving skills to keep us communicating and continually striving to better our relationship. We spend at least two hours a week on just this topic. After 12 years together I can honestly say that our relationship just keeps getting better and better, and is as good or better than anyone else's I've known.
Will this strategy keep us together the rest of our lives? I think the chances are very good, but we don't know. We're in our late 50s now, but neither of us can say for sure. Of course it would be nice to have 100% certainty, but we know that's unrealistic because we aren't robots, we're human (and we like that about each other, a lot!). We're very happy to live with the uncertainty we have, not unlike the uncertainty inherent in everyone's everyday lives. We do know we'll give it our best shot, and we feel that's about all that can be expected.
I too am done with this thread. Karl -- [email protected] http://www.kernel-panic.org/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/kplug-list
