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On Jun 27, 2010, at 7:50 AM, Connie Sheets <[email protected]> wrote: > Excellent advice has already been posted about how to respond (or more > accurately, not respond) to list "troublemakers." > > I would like to add two comments, however: > > Any mailing list is what the users make of it. If one has a question and > doesn't ask it, or has a potential solution and doesn't offer it, then one is > essentially contributing to the negative reputation, IMO. One might also be > saying, in effect, "I'm useless (or too dumb). I don't matter. I have no > control. I don't want to help." I'd rather be saying to myself "I need > help. I think there may be someone out there who can help me. Or, I don't > know if this will help anyone, but just in case..." > > One of the things I really like about this list is its international > membership. We have to remember that although we all write (and presumably > speak) English, it is not the same language throughout the world. I have > seen some of the most helpful people on this list accused of rudeness when > all that happened was the use of an idiom that I had not heard before, or > what appeared to me to be a cultural difference in the directness with which > one makes a statement. > > Being direct/blunt is not the same as being rude, although I know many of us, > perhaps particularly here in the US, have a problem differentiating those two > concepts. > > Connie > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Legacy User Group guidelines: > > http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp > > Archived messages after Nov. 21 2009: > > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > > Archived messages from old mail server - before Nov. 21 2009: > > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > > Online technical support: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Help.asp > > To unsubscribe: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/LegacyLists.asp > > > Legacy User Group guidelines: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp Archived messages after Nov. 21 2009: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Archived messages from old mail server - before Nov. 21 2009: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Online technical support: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Help.asp To unsubscribe: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/LegacyLists.asp
