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On May 10, 3:39 pm, iam deheretic <[email protected]> wrote: > Molly we have to have a serious discussion about you spying on my life. > Allan ... lol very cute > > > > On Sun, May 10, 2009 at 9:13 PM, Molly Brogan <[email protected]> wrote: > > > I found these posted tongue in cheek in another group. Selfish love? > > > 7 habits of highly defective people: > > > Habit 1: React > > Blame all of your problems on your parents, your boss, your lousy > > neighborhood, your partner, the government, or something or somebody > > else. Be a victim. Take no responsibility for your life. Act like an > > animal. If you're hungry, eat. If someone yells at you, yell back. If > > you feel like doing something you know is wrong, just do it. > > > Habit 2: Begin with No End in Mind > > Don't have a plan. Avoid goals at all costs. And never think about > > tomorrow. Why worry about the consequences of your actions? Live for > > the moment, but never 'in the moment'. Sleep around, get wasted, and > > party on, for tomorrow we die. > > > Habit 3: Put First Things Last > > Whatever is most important in your life, don't do it until you have > > spent sufficient time watching reruns, talking endlessly on the phone, > > surfing the Net, and lounging around. Always put off your important > > work until tomorrow. Make sure that things that don't matter always > > come before things that do. > > > Habit 4: Think Win-Lose > > See life as a vicious competition. Your colleages are out to get you, > > so you'd better get them first. Don't let anyone else succeed at > > anything because, remember, if they win, you lose. If it looks like > > you're going to lose, however, make sure you drag that sucker down > > with you. > > > Habit 5: Seek First to Talk, Then Pretend to Listen > > You were born with a mouth, so use it. Make sure you talk a lot. Be > > first off the mark, and never lose an opportunity to express your side > > of the story first. Once you're sure everyone understands your views, > > then pretend to listen by nodding and saying "uh-huh." Or, if you > > really want their opinion, give it to them. > > > Habit 6: Don't Cooperate > > Co-operation is synonymous with compromise. Let's face it, other > > people are weird because they're different from you. So why try to get > > along with them? Teamwork is for the sledge dogs. Since you always > > have the best ideas, you are better off doing everything by yourself. > > Be your own island. > > > Habit 7: Wear Yourself Out > > Be so busy with life that you never take time to renew or improve > > yourself. Never study. Don't learn anything new. Avoid exercise like > > the plague. Stay up late on Facebook. And, for heaven's sake, stay > > away from good books, nature, or anything else that may inspire you. > > > On May 10, 2:44 pm, Molly Brogan <[email protected]> wrote: > > > I was wondering out loud about Neil's idea of selfish love. Wondering > > > out loud is part of what we do here. Why the abrasive tone, Gabby? > > > > On May 10, 2:05 pm, gabbydott <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > And I think it is wonderful that people > > > > > > can find their comfort zone in life and be satisfied with that. But > > I > > > > > wonder if it isn't part of what Neil refers to as selfish forms of > > > > > love, aside from the more exploitative kinds. > > > > > Right, let’s talk about beginnings. Why would Molly, our mastress of > > > > embrace-the-paradox, end her concluding sentence with this schismatic > > > > “but”? To establish the paradox she makes out to make it embraceable? > > > > Well, why would Molly want to create some extra work when she sees > > > > that we don’t even handle our everyday work the way it is meant to? > > > > No, that’s not Molly style. Molly, let me ask you directly why you > > > > opened your last sentence the way you did. Would you care to explain, > > > > and I don’t mean justify. > > > > > On 10 Mai, 16:55, Molly Brogan <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > Which gives us a nice blending of threads on love here. Is Eros > > > > > selfish, relating only to the pleasure that I am receiving, and the > > > > > overall feeling of being loved that it may bring? Or can it include > > a > > > > > real connection with the other, two moving as one, without falling > > > > > into the domain of agape? > > > > > > I spent life as a single for fifteen years between marriages because > > I > > > > > preferred expressing my love of life and others as a single than > > > > > falling into a partnership where each expressed the other as the > > > > > object of their love. For me, if love is limited to this, it becomes > > > > > two people living side by side, expressing love as what the other can > > > > > do for me, and what I can do for them, but not really feeling the > > true > > > > > connection of two as one that I know is possible. As it turns out, I > > > > > am glad that I held out for a love that is more in tune with what I > > > > > know to be true, because it was totally worth the wait. Not that it > > > > > isn't challenging, because all relationships are. And in between > > > > > there were many interesting offers to combine my life with another - > > > > > although I felt that I was being seen as object, as someone who could > > > > > fill a predetermined role for the other - madonna/whore; housekeeper; > > > > > business manager; arm candy... Whatever the case, I wasn't sure that > > I > > > > > was appreciated for who I am, my viewpoint, my work, my being - but > > > > > rather, expected to slip into a dutiful role that fit the others > > needs > > > > > and lifestyle. > > > > > > I think that there are many relationships around me that are a > > > > > comfortable arrangement of finances, social activities and home life > > > > > without much Eros or Agape. And I think it is wonderful that people > > > > > can find their comfort zone in life and be satisfied with that. But > > I > > > > > wonder if it isn't part of what Neil refers to as selfish forms of > > > > > love, aside from the more exploitative kinds. > > > > > > On May 10, 9:30 am, archytas <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > In some of the crasser gutters I have found some relationship > > between > > > > > > begging and gratuitous offers of sex - Eros and other ideal Greek > > > > > > forms perhaps easing the innocence I use as a shield (think of > > Batfink > > > > > > Gabby - I'm pretty hopeless). Monogamy sounds a bit like something > > > > > > one might find trying to swim in treacle. This said, I would have > > > > > > made a pretty poor bonobo or chimp and have considerable respect > > for > > > > > > pair-bonding and explorations of equality that may move us away > > from > > > > > > selfish forms. > > > > > > > On 7 May, 12:54, gabbydott <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > I thought you had travelled the world, Chris. And what did you do > > > > > > > there? Went to the local movie theatres? Americans and how they > > live > > > > > > > their belief in ideals. *sigh* > > > > > > > > OK, let me translate "to please others" for you. In > > international > > > > > > > terms it means "begging" and is strictly unerotic. > > > > > > > > On 7 Mai, 06:45, Chris Jenkins <[email protected]> > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > In classical psychology, it's the Madonna-Whore complex. In > > modern > > > > > > > > culture, Ludacris calls out for "a Lady in the streets but a > > freak in > > > > > > > > the bed!" The clash of puritanical public values with > > animalistic > > > > > > > > private sexual desires creates a conflict that men (and less > > often > > > > > > > > women) who are not honest with themselves and/or their partners > > often > > > > > > > > express extra-relationally. In the ideal Eros relationship > > (ever > > > > > > > > IMHO), honest communication and a desire to please the other > > allows > > > > > > > > for mutual open exploration of the poles of desire, negating > > the > > > > > > > > desire to engage in such dalliances. Despite a variety of > > cultural > > > > > > > > relational phenotypes to choose from, I believe monogamy to be > > the > > > > > > > > Eros ideal. > > > > > > > > > On Wed, May 6, 2009 at 11:06 PM, archytas < > > [email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > Somewhat over-long as I remember Chris. An old French mate > > of mine > > > > > > > > > kept two mistresses - one who treated him like a mother. He > > was > > > > > > > > > somewhat surprised that I didn't approve, even suspecting I > > was in > > > > > > > > > love with his wife because of this. Sadly, I was only in > > love with > > > > > > > > > her cooking and brilliant sense of humour. He was a very > > gentle soul, > > > > > > > > > except when it came to arresting blaggers known to use > > violence and > > > > > > > > > intimidation on women. > > -- > ( > ) > I_D Allan --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups ""Minds Eye"" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/Minds-Eye?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
