I understand.^__^ I agree: 10 years is a long time to work out the kinks and if it doesn't work then it's probably not worth it. I think I was in the same kind of spot you are in middle school (by the way, I'm 18 years old. Haha! Sorry if I surprised you.^__^). I was friends with a girl who treated me like crap for 4 years and I was her lackie for those 4 years (this sounds pathetic, but I was alone when I was a kid and you'll do just about anything to have someone as a "friend"), until I finally broke away from her. However, during that time, I had no one to hang out with, no friends. It was tough making it through the day every day. Then, I met some friends who brought my self esteem up, and I met some true friends in high school that I'm very close to. I love them very much.^__^ If you have a friendship/ relationship that's just dragging you down, then I don't think it's worth it.
I'm glad you're feeling better, and keep looking; I'm sure you'll find some good friends, or something that makes life worth while. Right now, I'm helping my mom find friends.^__^ Hahaha! It's funny, I know; a daughter helping her mother find friends, but I know she needs someone other than me, my sisters, and my dad.^__^ It's nothing personal, people just need a friend sometimes that they can talk to. So, I'm convincing her to take some classes at the college or hang out with my friends' moms or something. I'm sure it'll be good for her. Thanks for the stars.^__^ That was sweet of you. Anytime you need advice or just want to shoot the bull (chit-chat) feel free to talk to me.^__^ I can provide some amusement for a little while. Hahahaha! On Jun 27, 11:06 pm, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > I am sorry about your cousin- hope you could help her- or she found > peace or adventure.//Adultery was not an issue in either marriage/ > divorce. I was the one who called it a day. I think ten years is my > limit for marriage. If you can't work things out by then, give it up.// > I am the one who gave you a "star" because you sounded sweet and > sincere.//I am responding because I see Ernest Hemingway's grandson > has re-edited "A Moveable Feast" to rescue his grandmother- NYTimes/ > Books. Interesting. And why I burn things I write or am sent. And > pertinent because Hemingway committedsuicide, I suppose. He hunted > himself, perhaps.//I don't agree that children are helpful- maybe one > of my four "gets it"- my second son- we are very close in personality. > The others have constructed their own myths and are busy raising their > families which is as it should be.// My initial comment arose as a > reaction to comments of my daughter and two subsequent e-mails- never > under-estimate the lunges of English majors when it comes to fencing > the language!// I have also left long time "friendships" this year. > No, I don't miss them.In fact, I am relieved. But unplaced at the > moment. And realism often looks like bitterness but is not. > > On Jun 26, 7:17 pm, L <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > I can understand.<=( My cousin went through two marriges herself: one > > with a guy who was a scum bag and treated her like his maid and abused > > her, the other with a guy who couldn't handle being a father to her > > kids and he ended up cheating on her. So, I can understand the some > > of the bitterness you feel. And yes; men can be stupid. Like I > > explained in my previous entry, if your a kid who wants to have > > adventure and all that than you shouldn't have children, and, in my > > oppinion, not even get married. Because real marriage is about team > > work, the husband and wife must work together to form a unity amongst > > themselves, an understanding, and compromise. It can't be "it's my > > way or the high way." The two must COMPROMISE. When people get > > married, they know this (or at least, I'd hope they'd know this), and > > are willing to WORK THINGS OUT. They marry because they love each > > other, faults included, and they are willing to go through the > > hardships of life with one another and support each other. THAT, in > > my oppinion, is how marriage should be, although it's probably easier > > said than done, but at least you try. > > > Hun, I am terribly sorry for the crummy husbands you had before, and I > > understand that it's hard to raise kids. You have to be strong for > > them, you have to provide a good example for them, and you must take > > care of them. And I understand how it's hard not to buckle under the > > pressure and just cry your eyes out. Life dishes us a hard hand > > sometimes, and honestly, (I know I'm complaining, but still) it's not > > fair, and it's not. Hun.......you want to know the best quality of a > > woman? Women are usually strong. Through the years women have > > married men who they thought they loved them, but were left with their > > children and stuck with the difficulty of raising them. It was hard > > for them, no doubt, by the managed to continue on. There are times > > when I wonder, "how can they do that when so much bad happened to > > them?" They are strong, independent, beautiful, proud women. They > > pick themselves up when the things around them {jobs, sexist men (no > > offense guys), nagging snooty mothers, etc} bring them to their > > knees. The amazing strength of women........it never ceases to > > astound me.^__^ > > > Hun, you are strong, no matter what anyone says, to have come this > > far. I'm proud, and others should be proud to. And if they're not, > > then let me be the first to say at least that. Keep going, your doing > > a fantastic job, and try not to let that bitterness consume you; > > you'll loose the best qualities within yourself and let them win. > > Smile, show them you're happy how you are (your personality, your > > life, everything), and look at them with strong eyes that say, "I can > > make it without you." ^__^ > > > P.S. If you ever need help, ask someone here and I'm sure they'll aid > > you; most people are nice > > P.S.S. When you are ready, and you might never be, but that's ok, try > > to find someone again. Except take your time, find someone you can > > trust, shares your same interests, and someone you deem is kind. Make > > it a little hard for them; if they truly want you, then they'll make > > that effort to get you. Also, look at the person's family. If they > > seem nice, chances are that's how he's going to be. > > P.S.S.S. If you want, let your kids know you're going through a > > little bit of a tough time and ask them to help out a little (kids > > aren't dumb; they know when something's wrong, even if they don't know > > what it is. If you let them know then they'll want to help you > > because they enjoy feeling needed and important). > > P.S.S.S.S. Sorry if I sound like a shrink.^__^ Hahahaha!! I'm not > > trying to be, but I know I can sound like one sometimes. Sorry again. > > On Jun 25, 1:50 pm, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > I was driven into marriage- twice- so I am pretty bitchy about the > > > subject- since I really never had to marry at all. I don't think men > > > and women are equal. Men can move along. Women must be the good mother > > > and nurture their children. Provide an example- blah-blah blah. It's > > > biology or the lessons from lions. > > > > On Jun 25, 1:21 am, L <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > i don't believe that. in this society i believe both men and women > > > > are equal, and the gift of life cannot exist without one or the > > > > other. as for children, it's true; if you're a young kid looking for > > > > fun and adventure, or still searching for your dreams and destiny in > > > > life then children can be a burden on you. that's why you shouldn't > > > > have unsafe sex at that age unless you're ok to go through that (at > > > > that point, you're screwing up yours and the child's life, so have > > > > fun, unless you're ok with that too). however, if you've gone through > > > > life, done some good stuff, and met a nice man or woman, then you > > > > should settle down and have a few kids (or not, there's no shame in > > > > getting married and just staying that way). having kids is a nice > > > > opportunity to pass on your memory, your wisdom, and your legacy. > > > > they are a piece of you. a way to continue your existence. > > > > > On Jun 20, 4:56 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > A habit of poets. A boost to book sales and theories. Women might as > > > > > well throw themselves over the cliff after 30. The world belongs to > > > > > men. Children are sandbags to a woman's dream.- Hide quoted text - > > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text - --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups ""Minds Eye"" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/Minds-Eye?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
