I can understand.<=( My cousin went through two marriges herself: one
with a guy who was a scum bag and treated her like his maid and abused
her, the other with a guy who couldn't handle being a father to her
kids and he ended up cheating on her. So, I can understand the some
of the bitterness you feel. And yes; men can be stupid. Like I
explained in my previous entry, if your a kid who wants to have
adventure and all that than you shouldn't have children, and, in my
oppinion, not even get married. Because real marriage is about team
work, the husband and wife must work together to form a unity amongst
themselves, an understanding, and compromise. It can't be "it's my
way or the high way." The two must COMPROMISE. When people get
married, they know this (or at least, I'd hope they'd know this), and
are willing to WORK THINGS OUT. They marry because they love each
other, faults included, and they are willing to go through the
hardships of life with one another and support each other. THAT, in
my oppinion, is how marriage should be, although it's probably easier
said than done, but at least you try.
Hun, I am terribly sorry for the crummy husbands you had before, and I
understand that it's hard to raise kids. You have to be strong for
them, you have to provide a good example for them, and you must take
care of them. And I understand how it's hard not to buckle under the
pressure and just cry your eyes out. Life dishes us a hard hand
sometimes, and honestly, (I know I'm complaining, but still) it's not
fair, and it's not. Hun.......you want to know the best quality of a
woman? Women are usually strong. Through the years women have
married men who they thought they loved them, but were left with their
children and stuck with the difficulty of raising them. It was hard
for them, no doubt, by the managed to continue on. There are times
when I wonder, "how can they do that when so much bad happened to
them?" They are strong, independent, beautiful, proud women. They
pick themselves up when the things around them {jobs, sexist men (no
offense guys), nagging snooty mothers, etc} bring them to their
knees. The amazing strength of women........it never ceases to
astound me.^__^
Hun, you are strong, no matter what anyone says, to have come this
far. I'm proud, and others should be proud to. And if they're not,
then let me be the first to say at least that. Keep going, your doing
a fantastic job, and try not to let that bitterness consume you;
you'll loose the best qualities within yourself and let them win.
Smile, show them you're happy how you are (your personality, your
life, everything), and look at them with strong eyes that say, "I can
make it without you." ^__^
P.S. If you ever need help, ask someone here and I'm sure they'll aid
you; most people are nice
P.S.S. When you are ready, and you might never be, but that's ok, try
to find someone again. Except take your time, find someone you can
trust, shares your same interests, and someone you deem is kind. Make
it a little hard for them; if they truly want you, then they'll make
that effort to get you. Also, look at the person's family. If they
seem nice, chances are that's how he's going to be.
P.S.S.S. If you want, let your kids know you're going through a
little bit of a tough time and ask them to help out a little (kids
aren't dumb; they know when something's wrong, even if they don't know
what it is. If you let them know then they'll want to help you
because they enjoy feeling needed and important).
P.S.S.S.S. Sorry if I sound like a shrink.^__^ Hahahaha!! I'm not
trying to be, but I know I can sound like one sometimes. Sorry again.
On Jun 25, 1:50 pm, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote:
> I was driven into marriage- twice- so I am pretty bitchy about the
> subject- since I really never had to marry at all. I don't think men
> and women are equal. Men can move along. Women must be the good mother
> and nurture their children. Provide an example- blah-blah blah. It's
> biology or the lessons from lions.
>
> On Jun 25, 1:21 am, L <[email protected]> wrote:
>
>
>
> > i don't believe that. in this society i believe both men and women
> > are equal, and the gift of life cannot exist without one or the
> > other. as for children, it's true; if you're a young kid looking for
> > fun and adventure, or still searching for your dreams and destiny in
> > life then children can be a burden on you. that's why you shouldn't
> > have unsafe sex at that age unless you're ok to go through that (at
> > that point, you're screwing up yours and the child's life, so have
> > fun, unless you're ok with that too). however, if you've gone through
> > life, done some good stuff, and met a nice man or woman, then you
> > should settle down and have a few kids (or not, there's no shame in
> > getting married and just staying that way). having kids is a nice
> > opportunity to pass on your memory, your wisdom, and your legacy.
> > they are a piece of you. a way to continue your existence.
>
> > On Jun 20, 4:56 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote:
>
> > > A habit of poets. A boost to book sales and theories. Women might as
> > > well throw themselves over the cliff after 30. The world belongs to
> > > men. Children are sandbags to a woman's dream.- Hide quoted text -
>
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