I had to give this one some thought, Jim, and examine the way that I interact in a group. I'm not sure what you are going for here, but for me, relationship and group dynamic always has time coming in and going out aspects. I cannot say that I behave the same everywhere I go, because I find myself sizing up the environment to establish a comfort zone for the exchange - what others are comfortable with, what I am comfortable offering. Issues of trust and trustworthiness are present in every relationship and group, and they can take awhile to establish. But even if the group is only together for an evening, there will be a getting to know you period, a bonding period, a deconstructive period, and a coming together before separating period. Happens every time.
I also choose the topic for discussion based on the receiver's receptivity. I don't try to discuss Esoteric philosophy unless I first see interest and foundational knowledge. I have found that allowing people their comfort zone can bring the best out in them. However, there is also an edge where they will begin to feel threatened and challenged if they are taken beyond it. I have noticed that some people prey on this, and like to disturb and stir things up. I take the other route, as my mother taught me that ladies and gentlemen do what they can to make everyone around them comfortable, and it is a good way to live. I think there is something to be said for this kind of virtuous nobility. All of this is to say that, while I am always me, I respect those around me in each exchange, which gives particular flavor to each exchange and may bring up different aspects, as you say, in me. On Aug 28, 2:19 pm, retiredjim34 <[email protected]> wrote: > I thought for a long time that I was the same “me” wherever I > was and whoever I was with. But then, in recent decades, I began to > notice differences in the “me” that was present, first with a few > people, then more and more with more and more. For example, I might be > witty with fast comebacks with one person, and yet with another I was > more dull and boring. Even when I tried to lighten up with the second > person, I did not seem able to – I couldn’t call forth the facet of me > that was present with the first person. Hmmm. > Have any of you noticed this? Probably everyone has, and just > as probably many have written about it. Do any of you know if this is > the case? And has anyone tried to explain the different facets of > one’s personality that seem to naturally shine with different people? > Or am I just nuts? Jim --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups ""Minds Eye"" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/minds-eye?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
