What is noble about preferring to stay in the comfort zone? The young british royals have a different take on that.
On 29 Aug., 15:05, Molly Brogan <[email protected]> wrote: > I had to give this one some thought, Jim, and examine the way that I > interact in a group. I'm not sure what you are going for here, but > for me, relationship and group dynamic always has time coming in and > going out aspects. I cannot say that I behave the same everywhere I > go, because I find myself sizing up the environment to establish a > comfort zone for the exchange - what others are comfortable with, what > I am comfortable offering. Issues of trust and trustworthiness are > present in every relationship and group, and they can take awhile to > establish. But even if the group is only together for an evening, > there will be a getting to know you period, a bonding period, a > deconstructive period, and a coming together before separating > period. Happens every time. > > I also choose the topic for discussion based on the receiver's > receptivity. I don't try to discuss Esoteric philosophy unless I > first see interest and foundational knowledge. I have found that > allowing people their comfort zone can bring the best out in them. > However, there is also an edge where they will begin to feel > threatened and challenged if they are taken beyond it. I have noticed > that some people prey on this, and like to disturb and stir things > up. I take the other route, as my mother taught me that ladies and > gentlemen do what they can to make everyone around them comfortable, > and it is a good way to live. I think there is something to be said > for this kind of virtuous nobility. > > All of this is to say that, while I am always me, I respect those > around me in each exchange, which gives particular flavor to each > exchange and may bring up different aspects, as you say, in me. > > On Aug 28, 2:19 pm, retiredjim34 <[email protected]> wrote: > > I > > was and whoever I was with. But then, in recent decades, I began to > > notice differences in the “me” that was present, first with a few > > people, then more and more with more and more. For example, I might be > > witty with fast comebacks with one person, and yet with another I was > > more dull and boring. Even when I tried to lighten up with the second > > person, I did not seem able to – I couldn’t call forth the facet of me > > that was present with the first person. Hmmm. > > Have any ofthat woticed this? Probably everyone has, and just > > as probably many have writ thiabout it. Do any of you know if this is > > the case? And has anyone tried to explain the different facets of > > one’s personality that seem to naturally shine with different people? > > Or am I just nuts? Jim --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups ""Minds Eye"" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/minds-eye?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
