Thank you for those insightful thoughts and observations.
What I was going for presumes, I think, some initial period of
becoming acquanted sufficient to get a sense of areas of harmony and
discord, trust and threat - sort of a mapping out of a comfort zone.
What I was focusing on glossed over the initial phase of this to the
point that, when in this comfort zone with person or group A one
aspect of me seems to come to the fore, while in the zone with person
or group B another aspect seems to come out or come to the fore. I
guess that is to be expected; the puzzle is solved. Thanks Molly for
clarifying this for me. Jim
On Aug 29, 6:05 am, Molly Brogan <[email protected]> wrote:
> I had to give this one some thought, Jim, and examine the way that I
> interact in a group. I'm not sure what you are going for here, but
> for me, relationship and group dynamic always has time coming in and
> going out aspects. I cannot say that I behave the same everywhere I
> go, because I find myself sizing up the environment to establish a
> comfort zone for the exchange - what others are comfortable with, what
> I am comfortable offering. Issues of trust and trustworthiness are
> present in every relationship and group, and they can take awhile to
> establish. But even if the group is only together for an evening,
> there will be a getting to know you period, a bonding period, a
> deconstructive period, and a coming together before separating
> period. Happens every time.
>
> I also choose the topic for discussion based on the receiver's
> receptivity. I don't try to discuss Esoteric philosophy unless I
> first see interest and foundational knowledge. I have found that
> allowing people their comfort zone can bring the best out in them.
> However, there is also an edge where they will begin to feel
> threatened and challenged if they are taken beyond it. I have noticed
> that some people prey on this, and like to disturb and stir things
> up. I take the other route, as my mother taught me that ladies and
> gentlemen do what they can to make everyone around them comfortable,
> and it is a good way to live. I think there is something to be said
> for this kind of virtuous nobility.
>
> All of this is to say that, while I am always me, I respect those
> around me in each exchange, which gives particular flavor to each
> exchange and may bring up different aspects, as you say, in me.
>
> On Aug 28, 2:19 pm, retiredjim34 <[email protected]> wrote:
>
>
>
> > I thought for a long time that I was the same “me” wherever I
> > was and whoever I was with. But then, in recent decades, I began to
> > notice differences in the “me” that was present, first with a few
> > people, then more and more with more and more. For example, I might be
> > witty with fast comebacks with one person, and yet with another I was
> > more dull and boring. Even when I tried to lighten up with the second
> > person, I did not seem able to – I couldn’t call forth the facet of me
> > that was present with the first person. Hmmm.
> > Have any of you noticed this? Probably everyone has, and just
> > as probably many have written about it. Do any of you know if this is
> > the case? And has anyone tried to explain the different facets of
> > one’s personality that seem to naturally shine with different people?
> > Or am I just nuts? Jim- Hide quoted text -
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