I think we should not drag multiple personalities into the discussion as I feel that is a psychiatric disorder however I do think people learn to conform and may stiffle their natural personality and abilities. My parents and step-father had an easier time of it- self- starters and quite flamboyant but my era placed a great deal of value on predictability or something like that which was up-ended starting in the 60's although the smoke appeared before the fire. Actually, writers and artists became so cynical and disallusioned in the 20th C. and after WWII- for good reason- while popular culture had musicals galore and pastel cars and adults were starving for merchandise after restrictions during the war- scuffles over nylons- imagine! So there was a pocket of denial, I guess. (The USA has never won another war unless you count Grenada and Panama!)//I brought up that visit because it must radically change my friend's idea of just who I am- and we really have been close friends- just because she never knew of those 10 years before we met. Those years will explain much to her and no doubt change her idea of my "identity"- but she'll love me just the same. :-) And that happens with many assumptions about others when we don't have the whole picture- or don't deserve it- all we can do is judge based upon what we see or believe. Or what we wish to see or believe.
On Dec 16, 9:22 am, DarkwaterBlight <[email protected]> wrote: > While I agree that personality has much to do with how we handle > circumstances; it is not unusual for people to adopt personality > traits seen in others. This is helpful in overcoming adverse > circumstances that one might, otherwise, be inequiped to handle. I- > dentity, however, might have little or nothing to do with either of > these as it can be as fluid as anyone wishes or or is inclined to > portray. What of those with multiple personality disorders? Would not > you say that there are multiple identities at work or should they be > identified as; by their circumstances ie; having a disorder? Very > questionable thesis RP! I agree with rigsy that more factors should be > taken into consideration. > > On Dec 16, 9:24 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > You still would have been yourself- with a different personality and > > altered circumstances. You are not "fixed" like a statue of marble. > > Humans are highly adaptable. Chance and luck have a huge impact on > > lives and it is impossible to avoid challenges and surprises. Often > > our strengths are hidden until provoked or summoned. Plus, you fail to > > mention the enormous impact parents have on their children and there > > are other "biggies" like war, poverty, intelligence, physical > > attributes, religious beliefs or not, etc.// A friend braved the snow > > Monday and came for lunch- really to show me the photo of a college > > reunion last autumn that I did not attend- amazing to hear all the > > dramas and traumas! :-) We have been friends since age 10 and > > congratulated ourselves on all the good times- the fun times- the 50's > > were a great decade, depending. Anyway, I finally filled in the blanks > > of myself from 0 to 10 before we met and she told me to "write a > > book"!!! > > > On Dec 15, 1:25 pm, RP Singh <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > I am what my identity is. If my personality and circumstances had been > > > different , it would have been a different identity and that would have > > > been > > > someone else and not I.- Hide quoted text - > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text -
