When it comes to friends I learned the best universal traits from the
older folk, like being able to be friendly in general to the common
stranger. Don't get me wrong, I can relate to a few of my 'peers' but
that is mostly cultural familiarity. There almost seems to be a certain
level of anxiety, sexual tension or competition with the younger that
you don't really need to have around the older. Just my notes here,
because I am not a good friend and drop off the map for long periods,
but usually try to advocate for the best and have appreciation.
On 6/19/2011 5:52 PM, pol.science kid wrote:
a few days back i read some post somewhere about the lack of
literature on friendship in philosophy mainly...and how it has been
ignored and so on.... so it got me thinking about the whole
affair...Friendship.... i asked myself who my friends were...i am very
casual in calling people my friends... in fact i realised i didnt
really pay much attention to it.... the word i mean... i wouldnt know
who to call my best friend...or a close and intimate friend...
because..it happens so to the person whom i would reveal my dearest
thoughts would be a relative stranger..in fact i dont do it
much...share thoughts..personal ones...i do it here but... maybe
because of the anonymity it lends.... plus i tend to outgrow some
friends... i know it sounds horrible..i dont really do it on
purpose..outgrow would mean... gradually losing touch...after i move
or something... i am sorry i dont want to make this some sort of
confession...but there are so many questions that confront and rack my
brain sometimes.... is it later in life that one makes real
friends...i mean after youve left that peer space...school or
college...l in fact leave that...its not that significant... I once
decided that Friendship is a vague term altogether... there are
individual relationships...each having a different bearing... like a
security personnel at your college gate... you get the point... I know
this is a very vast topic.and i cant really analyse it right now cos
this is a kind of spontaneous typing....so let me get to another
point.... like i mentioned above i seem careless of friends...but yet
i sometimes complain of the loneliness... which can be suffocating...
and yet i draw a line and withdraw if any relation touches on lines of
very personal.... i think one regards personal what one considers
sacred... like ones thoughts..contemplations... my question is....is
it possible to bond with Another... in an aristotelian way... because
i believe one can give ones life for someone but still be out of
something very impersonal.... are there some ...too self
absorbed...that it is almost impossible to connect on that level... it
is strange i have such high demands for any 'connection'...and yet i
am convinced there is no way i can really be with another according to
my standard... this must be awfully confusing... but there are many
smart people here ho might get the basic point.....
who is a friend?
can one really defeat the loneliness or is this loneliness only
immaturity on the souls part......
the question is now to you my 'friends'...convince me for something if
you will.........
