A friend is simply a person you can spend some time with. I have a friend Richard, we have known each other since we where both 11 years old. I can spend time with him and I love it, just not to much time. This is due to his own nature not mine. He is rather flighty, he has some circles of friends which he does not like to mix. He takes great pains to keep them seperate, and when he gets feed up with interaction in one circle he moves for while to the next circle.
So I get to see him about every three months or so, which suits the both of us, he is a fairly weird bloke. It might seem an odd arrangement, but we have been friends for many years now, more than half of our lives, but that is what freinds do for each other isn't it? On Jun 20, 11:28 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > One of my favorite books might sound strange but it helped me a lot- > esp. when a very dear friend died of a stroke in his 40's and I was > stunned- sat at the dining room table and did large puzzles for a long > time but also during other changes. Anyway- see if this is still in > print if you are interested: "Necessary Losses: The Loves, Illusions, > Dependencies and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have to Give > Up in Order to Grow" by Judith Viorst. I think that's where I read the > line about that 3 am phone call. > > On Jun 19, 4:52 pm, "pol.science kid" <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > a few days back i read some post somewhere about the lack of > > literature on friendship in philosophy mainly...and how it has been > > ignored and so on.... so it got me thinking about the whole > > affair...Friendship.... i asked myself who my friends were...i am very > > casual in calling people my friends... in fact i realised i didnt > > really pay much attention to it.... the word i mean... i wouldnt know > > who to call my best friend...or a close and intimate friend... > > because..it happens so to the person whom i would reveal my dearest > > thoughts would be a relative stranger..in fact i dont do it > > much...share thoughts..personal ones...i do it here but... maybe > > because of the anonymity it lends.... plus i tend to outgrow some > > friends... i know it sounds horrible..i dont really do it on > > purpose..outgrow would mean... gradually losing touch...after i move > > or something... i am sorry i dont want to make this some sort of > > confession...but there are so many questions that confront and rack my > > brain sometimes.... is it later in life that one makes real > > friends...i mean after youve left that peer space...school or > > college...l in fact leave that...its not that significant... I once > > decided that Friendship is a vague term altogether... there are > > individual relationships...each having a different bearing... like a > > security personnel at your college gate... you get the point... I know > > this is a very vast topic.and i cant really analyse it right now cos > > this is a kind of spontaneous typing....so let me get to another > > point.... like i mentioned above i seem careless of friends...but yet > > i sometimes complain of the loneliness... which can be suffocating... > > and yet i draw a line and withdraw if any relation touches on lines of > > very personal.... i think one regards personal what one considers > > sacred... like ones thoughts..contemplations... my question is....is > > it possible to bond with Another... in an aristotelian way... because > > i believe one can give ones life for someone but still be out of > > something very impersonal.... are there some ...too self > > absorbed...that it is almost impossible to connect on that level... it > > is strange i have such high demands for any 'connection'...and yet i > > am convinced there is no way i can really be with another according to > > my standard... this must be awfully confusing... but there are many > > smart people here ho might get the basic point..... > > who is a friend? > > can one really defeat the loneliness or is this loneliness only > > immaturity on the souls part...... > > the question is now to you my 'friends'...convince me for something if > > you will.........- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text -
